Hate how I look

[Elleeee]

My depression is really bad. I hate the way I look to the point where I have no confidence I wish I could look like someone else or change how I look. I try to make my appearance look better but nothing works. The way I look is getting me so down and making my depression even worse, does anyone else feel like this ?

[Agora1]

Hi Elleeee, it always makes me sad when women don't like what they look like and want to be a "cookie cutter" of another female. Depression is not about how you look, it goes deeper than that. It's who you are inside. The people who really count in your life, look past what you look like but like you for who you are. Portraying self confidence and having self esteem in yourself glows from the inside out.

Imagine if we all looked alike. How boring life would be. Variety is what makes humans unique. Celebrate your life and your looks. The warmth of a smile can go a long way in making you comfortable in your own skin as well as making others see the beautiful person you are xx

[Elleeee in reply to Agora1]

Aw thankyou, i am just generally depressed and how I look is making me feel even worse! But i understand what you mean x

[Hidden in reply to Agora1]

I absolutely agree Agora - what makes someone truly beautiful are their inner qualities: kindness, compassion, honesty, love, generosity, loyalty. But, yes, learning to love yourself is sometimes the hardest, because people do not always see their own good qualities when they look in the mirror. If only, sometimes, we could see ourselves through the eyes of others, we would see a different person.

[Hidden]

I hope you feel better soon.

[Elleeee in reply to Hidden]

Thankyou

[Hidden]

I feel that way. I hate having my picture taken. I hate having too many mirrors around. My friend says that’s not normal and it’s part of my depression.

[eloradennon0905]

I absolutely know how you feel. When I started taking medication for depression and anxiety about 6 years ago my weight just went all over. I gained, I lost, gained again. Now I’m in a spot where I’m okay with my current weight, but I so wish I could go back to how I looked before all of this. It really sucks that something that’s supposed to make you feel good can cause such insecurity.

[Elleeee in reply to eloradennon0905]

I have also gained weight I used to be 7 stone 10 now I am 8 stone I look hideous, thankyou for your reply

[Swanbird]

I know that you have heard this 1 million times but it’s what is inside that counts the most. You’re outside appearance is important I do know that and perhaps the right person maybe even myself can help improve the way you look. I don’t know how close we live together but maybe I can give you some tips or help in someway

[Elleeee in reply to Swanbird]

I know but I can’t help looking at other girls and wishing I looked like them, it is horrible to live with all of these insecurities. I am from the Uk

[Lizanimal]

I can really relate! There are moments when I fear looking in the mirror and avoid it because I'm convinced that I'm the most unattractive person in the world and then I eventually look and I realize I'm not as hideous as I was picturing myself. Sure there are still things that I don't like but it's not that all consuming fear and obsession that I'm a monster!

[Elleeee in reply to Lizanimal]

I do that exactly! It is so horrible

[Summer1625]

Comparison is the thief of joy. If you focus on what others have you are unable to focus on your own strengths. I would suggest that you engage in activities that boost your strengths. If you aren't sure of your strengths, do an assessment- what brings you joy or used to bring you joy? Take the power away from looks and give it to your best qualities. Do you draw, write, bake, babysit, play video games, swim, run, meditate, pet dogs, etc, etc, etc - what do YOU do well? Do those things. It's so hard when we're in the ugliness of depression to feel pretty. Little by little, as you find what you enjoy and are good at, your joy will begin to shine through and turn into beauty. ❤

[Anxiouspony12]

Sorry to hear that! I think best way is to find a look that works for you then stick to it and don't care what anybody else thinks! Like I have my own look it's alternative emo scene but it's mixed with vintage and I got a lip ring and lots of tattoos even got tiny one recently on my face and everybody accepts me the way that I am! Just do that find a look that's you! 😊

[newhope]

I am battling with losing weight. But I am constantly trying to remind myself that to live life, I don’t have to look perfect doing it. I just have to be happy to enjoy it. It’s hard to accept and I’m still on my self-love journey but the first step is to know and to believe that to live life, you only need to be happy... not attractive. The only people who will care about your outward appearance are people who are shallow and negative and honestly, I would NOT want to be around those people or even have them breathe the same air as me. You deserve to feel beautiful, and you are. 😘❤️

[Hidden]

You might not like how you look but the average guy finds all women attractive

[Agora1 in reply to Hidden]

[deborah27]

you have said a lot more than perhaps you realise elleeee, you mentioned putting on weight and to be honest the amount you stated is tiny. are you so unhappy with how you look because you are striving for a perfection that is unrealistic? what is your best feature, what do you really like about yourself physically? your eyes, your hair for example. our appearance is so much about smoke and mirrors if we are honest, concealer here and fake tan there... have another look at what you have with a real sense of who you are and create the look that is for you and no one else. i am sure you are beautiful, go on have another look.