Leaving me

[xGhostKingX]

My grandpa is leaving my family soon. He’s moving to China permanently and refuses to stay because no one here pays attention to him enough and he’s bored and unhappy everyday.

He was like a father to me in my childhood. The only contact we would have would be through our phones. I feel as if the day he leaves would be the last time I would ever see him again.

I’ve had trouble sleeping lately because I keep crying thinking about it. I keep tearing up when I think about it.

I know I’m probably over thinking it since he’s only moving away (to the other side of the world), but I can’t help but feel this way. I know I’m only trying to delay the inevitable and I’m selfish for this, but my family and I just can’t get over it.

[Lostjoy]

Does your Grandpa have Family in China he will be with?

I know that’s a long way for him to be, but it’s important for him to feel happy in his older years.

Now days you can still chat with him through Skype and FaceTime when you start missing him.

I’m sure it’s hard on you having to say goodbye. Maybe he will miss you as much and decide to come back eventually. He might not like it after he gets there.

[xGhostKingX in reply to Lostjoy]

He wants to vacation everywhere once he gets there. He no longer has any family members there and I’m worried about him being all alone, especially at his age.

The days before he leaves have been painful. He waits until I’m back home, gives me a look, and then leaves. My grandma (who will be staying) says that he wants to see his grandchildren before he departs. Unfortunately, he has found it boring and meaningless here. He wonders if I will play with him and if not he just goes. It gets tiring and stressful. It’s so hard for me to deal with.

He said that he’s made up his mind and won’t regret it (and would be stubborn to admit if he does). Once he’s gone, he’s gone.

[Healthanxietyhater in reply to xGhostKingX]

Hi, sorry to hear about this. I totally understand what you mean. My grandma is in Hong Kong even though they’re people looking after her I still worry. Have you talked about how you feel to him? Like about you missing him? Maybe he just wants attention since you said no one here pays attention to him enough. Are you in the UK?

[xGhostKingX in reply to Healthanxietyhater]

No, im in the US. I’ve talked to him but he says that he’s made up his mind and won’t regret it. He’s stubborn, so once he gets there, there’s no turning back. No one’s looking after him.

I now find myself regretting everything. If i spent more time with him... if i wasn’t born... maybe none of this would happen.

[gogogirl in reply to xGhostKingX]

He's leaving his wife- your grandmother? That is wierd ( sorry) unless they are separated. I hope that his doctor knows about this- I am not saying he has it- but sometimes people who have stages of dementia can make poor decisions.