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Future thoughts

I can't seem to stop thinking of the things that are still to happen in the future, I feel nervous all the time. Mostly always concerned about losing the people I care about that something could happen to them, like with my daughter, husband, mother. My life right now is ok, I can't seem to stay focused on that , because of this I get palpitations and my stomach hurts. I am on 40 mg of citralpram and take 20 mg of trazadone at night.seem to fall asleep ok but wake at 5am with the future thoughts

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I'm sorry your going through such a hard time, but one thing ....the future isn't here yet, and nobody can control people, places, or things. Change is scary to a lot of us, especially those of us who have that fear of loosing control of our lives. I was told about a therapy where you do this 'Tapping on the body' in certain places while speaking calming words to help focus. I'm not promoting this therapy, it just helped me, it may help you :

How to Immediately Relieve Fear - Tapping Method/EFT

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I will have to give it a try, thank you

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Maybe when this happens try to focus on happy thoughts or listen to music you like! Hope this is of some help top you! Focus on the here and now, none of us knows what the future is to bring, possibly great things for all of us!!!!!!!!!! XXX

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You have a very sweet and positive personality. May God bless you!!

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Thank you so much. Although I don't see myself that way, I try to remain positive, some days are difficult! All the best to you!

God Bless you! Love ,peace & joy! XXX

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Thank you, very much!

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In regard to sleep, you are on a starter dose of trazadone. Might want to talk to your doctor about increasing the dosage. But I realize that the real problem is the fear and anxiety. Wish I had a recommendation for that. Have you given your antidepressant a full 6 to 8 weeks to work?

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I have been on the antidepressant for about 3 months, I was taking wellbutrin but found it didn't help, it sure is difficult not to have the intrusive thoughts

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I noticed this statement from HealthUnlocked's interview with the psychiatrist and a psychologist regarding intrusive thoughts:

A. (Dr. Martinez) Intrusive thoughts are one of the most difficult symptoms to treat in anxiety. In terms of medications, these intrusive thoughts usually only respond to high doses (for example, 200 mg Zoloft). In addition, there are certain medications that work specifically for these symptoms such as clomipramine and fluvoxamine.

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I have been having these same thoughts for awhile now too. I also have a daughter whom I worry about constantly. I wish I had an answer for you. I usually try to keep myself busy but it is exhausting worrying about the unknown. Sorry I'm not more help but I wanted you to know you're not the only one.

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Karen trust me your not alone, I'm the same way. Today I got good news about my finances, but picked it apart thinking it's not going to happen? So there I go back to being negative.

Long time ago I heard stories about killer bees. I was pregnant with my daughter. I went into deep worring about her and the bees getting her.

Well that was 40 years ago she's never experience any kind of bite.

4 years ago my daughter was pregnant. I had a mental breakdown where I ended up in bed for 2 months. I was already worried about him being born into this world and what would happens to him? So see it happens. You have to try to redirect your thoughts if you can?

I found videos on YouTube that were helpful. Take care

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Can you please share the videos you use? I’m willing to try anything. I also have an intense fear of future and it makes my anxiety so hard to deal with where I don’t even want to get out of bed.

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I know how you feel, that's me. There are lots of them to see. The different ones offers different tips on to deal with your anxeity. Listen to them and see witch one your comfortable with. These care

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I worry about my daughter and grandkids constantly, have such bad thoughts of things happening to them

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That's me, I worry that she'll for forget my grandson in the car, predators, him getting kidnapped. So many things that can go wrong?

I've been able to keep those throughts away because I know we're he's is and who he's with. I have too or I'll lose it. With my kids I've been able to take what happens as it comes. I know they don't tell me everything and take care of their own problems, which I want for them because I won't be here forever. When they where younger I was the helicopter mom. It drove them nuts. I was taping videos of things that could happen and make them watch them.

They put me in place telling that I can't put them in bubble wrap. They're right, besides it was overwhelming and emotionally exhausting.

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Hi there, I just read your posts, I too worry about the future, I have depression and anxiety and take panic attacks. I recently became a father 4 weeks ago and it awoke something dark in me witch shut me down very bad. I can't stop thinking of what hardships are to come and how vulnerable I am and can't find ways of over coming them, I can't concentrate on the here and now.

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It is so hard not to have them, I see a therapist and she says when negative thoughts enter , try and concentrate on just the NOW , not easy , been tryi g this for awhile, am trying to stay positive

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