Anyone ?

[Lmjc17]

Does anyone else have the serious need to control every single thing and every single person around them ? How do you deal with that ? How do you help yourself to relax more and let go or the reigns ?

[fauxartist]

for many of us who had no control as children when bad things happened to us, it's not unusual that as adults we try to control our environment as much as possible. I learned the hard way that I have no control over people, places, or things. Sh*t happens and it may have absolutely nothing to do with us, it just happens. I found it so stressful and almost debilitating trying to control everything that went on with my business and home life. People don't like being 'micro-managed' and funny thing is, I did it, but can't stand it being done to me. So now I have figured out that sometimes just taking the back seat and letting somebody else drive for a change takes a lot of stress off of me, and I also have to except that everyone does things the way they do, and they don't always have to do it my way. As long as the same basic results ultimately happen, then so be it, mission accomplished and no one is worse for the ware.

[ImInTroubleAgain in reply to fauxartist]

Accepting that everyone has their own way of doing things is the hard part for me. I want so much to relinquish control over everything but have little faith or trust in people. Even if I know their intentions are good, I’d rather just do it myself to be sure it’s done right or I will check after them to make sure it’s done right. Micro managing every aspect of myself and the people around me. This post just made me aware of this! 🤔😉 Time to do better!

[fauxartist in reply to ImInTroubleAgain]

baby steps...and yes...trust is the issue. Trust yourself to let go, try one little thing at a time and see how it goes.

[Lmjc17 in reply to fauxartist]

Thank you. I have been aware of it now and making conscious efforts to do better. I thought the issue was trusting other people, but maybe I should allow myself to trust myself as well.

[Lmjc17 in reply to ImInTroubleAgain]

This sounds like me. I have little trust in people but not because of anything they’ve done, but because of that lingering fear I have of something going wrong. But yes the first step is acknowledging it ! Thank you !

[Lmjc17 in reply to fauxartist]

Yes you’re right it does create an insane amount of stress ! I guess just allowing myself to accept things will make it easier. It’s so hard sometimes lol