Please help

[Lovemyfam]

Hi im suffering from anxiety in a big way ...im really struggling....my 24yo son has moved out 2 weeks ago......he was diagnosed with epilepsy 18 mths ago....he got a job last sept but has just been put off....he had a car accident last oct and a truck rote his car off....we are still fighting them for money.....he now has a small car loan and no job.....i worry so much about him and dont know how to handle my anxiety

[Maxiomargie]

Sometimes we just have to step back and realize that we are not in control of certain things - like other people's lives. I know it's your son, so it's hard to be objective - but he is a man now and should be taking care of himself. You're worrying is not going to help anyone; it's just going to make you sick. I'm aware it's not easy though. Stupid anxiety. At least you can pinpoint what is causing your discomfort. Be there for your son for moral support, but he's the one who needs to find a new job and that takes work on his part. The serenity prayer helps if you're a believer. Best of luck of to you & your son.

[Lovemyfam in reply to Maxiomargie]

Thanks so much.....all my friends say l need to back off too and yes it is hard especially since he is relatively new with epilepsy but i will try my hardest....i feel like ive failed as a mum but on the other hand i think im a great mum and will do all i can for him but he wan ts his independence too....i appreciate your words

[Luvmycats]

Similarly, my son was diagnosed at age 27 with schizophrenia and was headed down a road I had difficulty accepting. He is 52, now and he is satisfied with his situation; I am not thrilled, but I am able to accept that it is in God's hands. I hope this helps.

[GM1954]

Saw a movie about epilepsy. Johns Hopkins has something that will help epi.