First psychologist session done

[vanessi]

Well i went to the first session earlier today. I must say i felt a litlle uncomfortable cos i am not very open to tell my stuff to a stranger, particulary i felt she was kind of aggresive of what she said and i felt like she is trying to tell me what to do so i will feel better, i couldn't say everything i wanted and she sometimes didn't let me talk. I don't know i can't judge and next visit is next tuesday so i will give this a chance so i will keep going if i feel she is not really helping me i might change psychologist.

On the other hand, i got a call today and i have a job interview on wednesday at 1pm, let's see how it goes. Hope you all are doing ok, i woke up positive today but sometimes my mood changes depending on situations and memories. Honestly you all have helped me and i am really thankful

xxxx

[Hidden]

I'm so happy you are having an interview congratulations. And about the psychologist give her another try if you don't feel comfortable with her switch. She is suppose to listen to you and give you reassurance as well as help you with some coping exercises, not make you feel like you can't open up to her.

[Klbtc in reply to Hidden]

I agree 100%. Also i am happy you are seeing a psychologist. Having a professional to talk to and work out short term goals with to get where you want to get in life, whatever that may be, is so helpful. I remember when i First got a psychiatrist and felt weird about it, then i realized how comfortable i suddenly was and how grateful i was to have her. I don’t know what i did before her! Things will definilty improve for you! But it is important to feel comfortable so after giving your current psychologist an honest, willing and open chance - if you still don’t feel like you are not being heard or understood , it’s obviously okay to switch. One person who is great with one person might not click with another and their job is to help you! So make sure you make certain you’re comfortable and trust your psychologist.

Please keep us updated !!! I’m excited for you!!

Positive vibes being sent your way!

Xx,

Kirby

[vanessi in reply to Klbtc]

Thanks, well as i said i am not a very open person when is all about my deep feeling but i won't judge her work, i will give her a chance and lets see cos i didn't feel comfortable at all she was watching every move i made and so on, and i would like someone to talk without feeling so observed. Maybe i am just overreacting.

I will keep updating and thank you so much for reading my posts and reply. I hope you are doing well xxx

[Klbtc in reply to vanessi]

That’s so understandable. I went to a treatment facility that was residential (i lived there like moved to a diff state and stayed there for 55 days) one of the behaviorial therapists made me so uncomfortable because i could tell when she was like watching me. Taking notes on me. Then when we would have to like meet up for an assessment t of how i was doing that day she just made it very clear she was watching my reaction my petite my language everything. It just made me more anxious and she wsnt very empathetic. Not saying your psychologist isn’t, I’m just saying i totally relate. Maybe it was because it was the first time and she / he was getting s feel for so you are and where you are at. That must have been anxiety provoking or stressful. Sorry you had to go through that. I’m sure t will be easier next time.

[vanessi in reply to Klbtc]

I hope so x

[vanessi in reply to Hidden]

Yes i will, i mean maybe i need to relax when i talk to her but i felt like attacked, i don't know i will give myself an opportunity if she is not helping i will switch

[StruggleBusSAHM]

It takes time to build that trust and relationship. You made the move to seek help you are doing great! Good luck with your interview!

[vanessi in reply to StruggleBusSAHM]

Thank you so much

[gogogirl]

You have an interview? Good luck- what is your field?

[vanessi in reply to gogogirl]

Yes, on Wednesday. My fields are teaching, translation and interpretation

[gogogirl in reply to vanessi]

That is wonderful. I wish you the best. Is this at a school? Just the fact that you have an interview is huge.

[vanessi in reply to gogogirl]

Yes it is, in a kindergarten school

[gogogirl in reply to vanessi]

That's great! I imagine it is a public school? Anyway, good luck- you're going to be okay.

[HearYou]

vanessi,

Sometimes one expects certain attributes from a professional in the mental health field similar the support like is given this forum. But they have the skills and training to help direct you in directions and changes to progress. They would not always be successful in that process if that didn't observe you and take in all they can to put the pieces together and evaluate what could be the best way to work with you. That means sometimes it is more important for you to listen and not say everything you want, as the time is limited, and often the counselor/therapist is picking of hints and giving you feedback.

You are not paying her to comfort and console you and listen to your broken heart sorrow as you can do on this forum. She is working in a way we can't. Don't try to be your own therapist. Let her do that and try to accept something different is maybe something good for you. AND most likely this not this woman's first rodeo in helping a young woman in your situation. Experience is a strong point, even if she has a different or unexcepted personality.

And congrats on the interview. What a difference a day can make! What languages do you work wit in your translation work?

[vanessi in reply to HearYou]

I am not expecting comfort nor console not even the support i get here, but she made me feel so uncomfortable and i felt bad opening myself with her. And i will keep going, i know one session can't define her work and i have had accepted all kind of point of views. But if i keep feeling like this next sessions i will definately see another one

[gogogirl in reply to vanessi]

It sounds like you are moving forward, and that's great; not always easy. Personally, I think that therapists can work on observation, and still be empathetic otherwise they should be in a different field. I stuck with someone too long who actually fell asleep, and even had a temper tantrum, so I finally stopped. Of course you should have consolation and support- that's why they have tissues in the office. If they are completely detached and uncaring- well that is another story. I recently switched and right away felt different with someone else. I have had to cancel because I have been sick so we'll see what happens. Good news you have.

[vanessi in reply to gogogirl]

Thanks, i'll keep going so lets see if i feel better. I hope you are doing ok

[gogogirl in reply to vanessi]

Thank you- so good to hear from you. Today we are having a big snowstorm so I'll be a shovelin'. I am hanging in there. I hope your interview went well!

[Hidden]

Hi Vanessa, I'm so so happy to hear you are progressing forward. Good luck with the interview 😊 and yes, give the therapist another try. Then you can decide. Do continue therapy. You have no idea how happy I am that you are healing slowly. Best thing I heard today

[vanessi in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, Although i don't know if i am healing, sometimes i feel really bad and i miss what i had, i guess i am just trying to recover but still a battle every morning.

I still feel i have no future at all

[Hidden in reply to vanessi]

It will take time to heal. Trust me. It will slowly get better. I'm in my fourth month and still have bad days where I don't want to move. But definitely better than they used to be

[TAPNewEngland]

Vanessi, I agree that it is hard to talk to a stranger and it's important to build rapport with them. Do you feel comfortable with this person? It may take time to feel totally comfortable and if you don't have anyone else to talk to, this will be a good thing. Good luck with the interview and it sounds as if you will do great!

[vanessi in reply to TAPNewEngland]

i don't feel very comfortable with this person, but lets see. I can't judge someone's work and less when it was my first session.

Thanks for the interview thing..

I still feel really bad cos i miss what i had and it is always on my mind. This was supposed to be one of the happiest months and see now, even next month i know will be a nightmare.

[gogogirl in reply to vanessi]

I see a huge contrast between a therapist I quit going to , and the one I met recently. The last one was very closed , and would not even say much about her background, schooling etc. This current one volunteers information. Big difference.

[MKatic]

Glad things r looking up for you.hanf in there