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First appointment with the psychologist tomorrow

Hi everybody just to update my recovering, tomorrow morning i have the first appoinment with the psychologist and i must say i am a little bit nervous, it is my first time wih a psychologist and i don't know how to act or what to say, i feel kind of ashamed talking about my issues with her.

Any advice?

by the way, i got an email from my ex last night at 10 pm here and 4 am over there, i think he was drunk or smth. He wrote "i miss you so much" but i didn't reply and i won't do it. I am very hurt to have a conversation with him.

Anyway, i want to thank everybody who has taken a little and much of your time replying my posts, checking on me, sending messages and sending best wishes for my recovery. I feel i can share with you how i feel.

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Hello, My suggestion is Be Yourself, talk to her/him like your best friend, do not hold anything back that is hurting you. Believe me they have heard it all before, so do not waste time on how to behave, Go in with the thought "this is someone who will help me". You can do it, I have done it many times over the years, and it is so healing. Love yourself and know you are doing a kind act for yourself. I send you strength, love & hugs. Sprinkle 1

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Thank you for the suggestion, i will try to have that on mind. It's really hard for me to be open with my problems but i know that is what i need right now.

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Your appointment may be a real eye opener. Hearing yourself talk openly about the issues can pull back the curtain to show what the real issues are. It works!

If you think you are mad at someone, you may instead find that you are hurt by them. You fix hurt differently than you fix mad. You may find that the feelings have nothing to do with them, it may be an issue about you or someone else.

You’ll do great if you talk. Their job is to listen, it’s strange how it actually works.

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i am actually hurt by someone but i also i am hurt cos some stuff that happened in my past. I really hope i can feel better

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Wonderful that you have an appointment- sounds like you have a plan

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I have no a plan but it is the only thing i can do right now, i want to feel ok again with myself.

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Then that is the plan. Peace be with you.

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Thank you. You too :)

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It takes courage to admit you need help.

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You don't actually " say " anything. They talk, then you talk, etc. It's a conversation. It doesn't have to get into anything intense. You may fill out a form before you go into her office and your answers to some simple questions will give the psychologist something to begin with. Therapy is a relationship of sorts so building trust is very important. You can always say, " I don't feel ready to talk about that yet." I have said it many times in therapy. It's all baby steps where showing up is 80%. There are still all types of therapy I haven't tried yet, like emdr.

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Thanks for the advice

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