Quitting Time

[LMCello]

I️ have to tell my husband that I️ quit my job. He’s going to be so disappointed in me. I️ am terrified.

[kenster1]

hi if its because of your anxiety/depression then he should understand I hope.sit down over a meal together and talk about how you feel.

[EduardoHors3]

There's no way around that, but you did what you had to do. He will come around it eventually. Do your best to explain and be real and honest. Don't be afraid. I hope you find peace of mind friend.

[pinkplasticball]

I know it’ll probably be a tough discussion, but I bet you feel relieved that you did it. I want to quit every day, I’m on the verge of being fired due to the symptoms of depression and anxiety affecting performance and attendance.

I can’t imagine how good it would feel knowing that that part of my stress is gone from my life. Sadly that’s not a realistic option for me even though it would benefit my mental health.

Does your husband work or are you the only income? Before you get there, maybe try and work out a tentative plan on how to manage the loss of your income, such as cutting back on bills or subscription services you don’t really need, creating a budget if you don’t have one, and going over your bank statement or download an app that will show you where you can cut down on unnecessary spending. Consider utilizing thrift stores as a first option when you need items such as winter coats, clothing, shoes, kitchenware, etc. You can find practically brand new items for a fraction of the cost. You may not always find what you need, but it’s worth checking. Think about how you can save on groceries, such as buying in bulk and preparing meals ahead portioned out, that will help conserve food if you have to defrost another serving.

I think it’ll work out in the end, people are resilient, he may be stressed at first, but just remain calm and let him know that things won’t be as bad as he may think. There are assistance programs also you may qualify for to help with energy bills and food if you don’t receive those.

[melbrown]

🙁 What happened to cause you to leave your job? I'm sure your husband will understand.... He loves you & wants the best for you. Hope everything goes okay 💛

[Justswimming]

Are you planning on getting another one? Do you guys need money for rent? If you were unhappy he should understand.. He loves you..just a matter of what you guys need...if you agreed that both of you would work you should just tell him what you're looking for.If your married you should make big decisions together

[Windy101]

Disappointed husbands get over it if there's a strong love between you. If your symptoms made work impossible, that is the real problem. Ask for him to assist you in getting the help you need. If you can't work, there is disability. If you've never sought help, now is the time.

This is scary, I know, but actually an opportunity for you and your husband to be closer, and for him to know the difficulties you are facing. It can be a positive in your life.

[gogogirl]

I hope that he understands that you did what you needed to do. Peace to you.

[gogogirl]

And who knows- it hopefully will lead to something better while you work on your needs.

[LMCello]

Thanks, everyone. I️ was a nanny for two children, so I️ was their primary caregiver. I️ didn’t think it would be responsible to continue watching them in the state I️ have been in. I️ told him yesterday. I️ apologized for making this decision without him. He was upset all day, but then we talked through it and as I️ let him process his feelings, we got back on good terms. I’m going to look for something simple, like stocking shelves at Barnes and Noble or something. I️ am in an outpatient program right now and they said that they would help me figure out where to go from here. Thanks again for caring, everyone.