How to forgive.

[Lizanimal]

Several years ago when my depression was untreated and I was suicidal a loved one who was very exhausted and frustrated told me to either stop threatening suicide or just get it over with. I am still incredibly hurt by this. This person has expressed regret and apologi zed again and again but I don't know how to forgive them. Any advice?

[blackcat64013]

Hi Lizanimal

Just as we appreciate being forgiven, we should likewise forgive the mistakes of others.

Most psychologists recommend mustering up genuine compassion for those who have wronged us, and moving on from the past, instead of allowing bitterness and anger toward others eat away at us.

We forgive others when we let go of the resentment. While not excusing the error, you can refuse to be consumed with feelings around it .

Forgiveness can help you to keep calm, improve your health, and increase your happiness.

Forgiveness and letting go can lead you down the path of healing and peace

Recommend reading this book

Four Steps to Forgiveness

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A powerful way to freedom, happiness and success.

The author is

William Fergus Martin

ISBN: 978-1-63443-344-0

It's available with more notes at this link

globalforgivenessinitiative...

[Marie_Anne in reply to blackcat64013]

Forgiveness. Such a POWERFUL tool but so very hard to master. Great advice.

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Maybe it was an attempt at tough love? If so it does show they cared. It does sound like though they didn't mean it the way it came out but haven't we all said things we regret later? Have you never said or done anything awful to anyone and can't forgive yourself? I know I have. Forgive, even if you can't forget, and move on. x

[Nmgar]

Tough love - hmmm perhaps we are related- that sounds a lot like my brother- and so not helpful. What has helped me more than forgiving others is to allow myself to forgive myself. Tell yourself it's ok NOT to be perfect and to screw up and it's ok to be you and feel the way you feel - warts and depression and sadness and all. Because in the end you Are worthy and beautiful and unique