Ugh 😑

[RyRywifey]

Why do I always feel the absolute WORST before and during my cycle???? My thoughts are scary, I feel impending doom and I'm just scared of everything for no reason. And why am I always afraid before every Drs appt??? My daughter (8) has been having a toothache and I'm gonna take her to the dentist tomorrow, why am I afraid tho??? Why do I ALWAYS fear the worst????? Wtf is wrong with me?????? I miss my old self so bad guys 😔😔😔😔😔😔😔 I hate that im this way now... and it's like It will never change.. my carefree happy fearless self is like a distant memory smh... can anyone relate at all??? Probably not because I feel like I'm the worst ever

[AngstRN]

You are SO not alone in this! I have felt the same for such a long time that it's hard to remember what my life was like before the anxiety took over. I have been an RN for 26 years and have lived (if you can call it that) with generalized anxiety and panic disorder since my teens. Your hormones can have a major effect on anxiety and depression. Right before your cycle starts you can be more prone to have heart palpitations, headaches, sleep disturbances, hot and cold flashes, and severe mood swings. It totally stinks when you're going through it. Sometimes I wonder "who the heck took over my body last week?". There are many of us out here that can relate to your story. Hang in there, we're here for you.

[RyRywifey Ambassador in reply to AngstRN]

Thank you so much for your response, it's comforting to know I'm not alone even tho I would not wish this on a worst enemy. At times the heart palpitations do come, but the severe mood swings are terrible, I feel so bad for the way I act towards people when this time comes and I want so badly to control it but seems like I can't smh it's really awful. And the health anxiety makes my mood swings THAT much worse smh it's just really awful

[mysmugcat]

PMT? I get this. And hormones can still affect you during your period. Evening Primrose Oil can be good but check with the doctor and interactions of medicines.

[20Voices]

You are not alone, but the good news is that you can get back to your carefree happy self. PMT is a nightmare, but with some planning you can allow yourself to not feel so bad when it happens.

Being scared of appointments is understandable as well. I read an article that explained when we feel afraid the body releases chemicals like adrenaline and other things. Our body gets used to feeling these chemicals and learns that when we are afraid we get more of them, so it starts a vicious cycle.

So what needs to happen if for us to teach our minds and bodies that we want to feel these things we are happy. So we have to retrain ourselves. So using things like positive affirmations, gratitude, mindfulness I was able to get back to feeling happy.

It is kind of like ignoring the bad feelings and getting yourself into a routine of if you feel anxious you do certain things to calm and settle yourself, then you praise yourself and award yourself for getting through the tough event. I used treats like really praising myself, because I always criticized myself, lovely relaxing baths and I'd also put money in a jar everytime I left good about over coming a situation and then used that money to book a massage.

You can do this, You can feel better and happier and you have a lovely 8 year old daughter who will be so happy once you are better. You can look forward to lots of happy days and great times with your daughter. Keep telling yourself today that her dental appointment will go well and everything is okay. If you get the negative thoughts, just repeat your positive thoughts over them.

Check out the ADAA website as they have resources that may give you some ideas of what you can do to help yourself. You could also check what support groups are in your area who would be able to go through talk therapy or other techniques with you as well.

You can do this, I did, it took me time and I still have a few days where I don't feel so good, but they are a lot less than they used to be. I am not crying every day like I was, I am not hurting myself like I was and I am not shut in my bedroom afraid to do anything.

If you want to talk more about what techniques I used then you can PM me.

Take care.

[Savingstar]

I am so with you mine anxiety has come back with a vengeance and I’m thinking it’s the menopause as I have never had the symptoms this bad for so long. I think god must have hated us females to do this to us pmt through the period and then whammy 10 years of menopausal hell.

[RyRywifey Ambassador in reply to Savingstar]

Omg I haven’t gotten to menopause yet. If my cycle does me this dirty now, I can only imagine 😩I mainly have issues with health anxiety now, and it’s gets sooooo terrible around my cycle and ovulation 😣