Two singers commit suicide

[kelli333]

Can you believe that Chris Cornell of Soundgarden and the singer from Linkin Park both hung themselves within a week of eachother? It makes me angry bc I'm fighting to live and I've got schizophrenia, depression, anxiety and agoraphobia. I go thru hell everyday yet they had children, fame, fortune, success. I don't understand why, even if they were fighting drug abuse. What are your thoughts?

[MarjorieJL]

Yes, very sad indeed. We can NOT put ourselves in anyone's shoes but let's reach out and help those around us. So often we do not take the time to truly listen....

[Depressed1996]

I was really hurt by this. It gave me a lot of anxiety during my day today which already was not going well. It makes me think about there position in life. They could afford the best help the world could offer. I'd like to hear more about this overtime and see if he was seeking help. It just really hurts me to think that someone with the money to afford the best help and they still ended up killing themselves. It's a little discouraging.

[kelli333 in reply to Depressed1996]

I agree, the Linkin Park singer had six children. How awful. Reminds me of Robin Williams. At first, I refused to believe it.

[kelli333]

i guess i got it wrong Chris hung himself a month ago.

[Depressed1996 in reply to kelli333]

I really hope there was some sort of insanity or something there. The fact he has kids really gets to me. I've always felt the day I have a kid would be the day my depression goes away. Would give me a lot to live for.

[kelli333 in reply to Depressed1996]

I feel the same way. I would do anything for a child of mine. But I"m 39 and single so I think it's very unlikely. I really want to be a foster mom but with my history I don't think I qualify plus I can't afford a two bedroom even with the money they give you (only $400).

[Depressed1996 in reply to kelli333]

Well I believe in you and wish you the best

[kelli333 in reply to Depressed1996]

thank you so much. i wish you the best of luck. God bless.

[Hidden in reply to Depressed1996]

Unfortuately, having children does not solve our challenges, it places more on us if we are expecting them to resolve our issues.

[photobeats in reply to Hidden]

I used to think the same thing. If I had someone to love and take care of like a child of my own that it would somehow "fix" things. It just doesn't. Depression doesn't discriminate. It doesn't care how popular you are, how many kids you have, how loved you appear to be on social media, etc, it affects us all differently. Like a diet, mental health is different for EVERY body out there. We can empathize but we can never truly knows what another person is experiencing.

[kelli333 in reply to photobeats]

That's true. But I can't help thinking if I was in the position they were, rich and famous and talented and following their passion I would be grateful but you're right who knows what demons they were fighting.

[Hidden]

I think it doesn't matter how much material or family wealth you have when it comes to depression. People chase those thinking it will make them happy but the best gift you can give yourself is to sort your own head out. That's what most important in life.

Maybe too fame and fortune put too much of a strain on them as not everyone can cope with that.

[kelli333 in reply to Hidden]

You have a good point. Celebrities do have a lot of pressure on them and a lot end up using alcohol and drugs to deal with it.

[Hidden in reply to kelli333]

I also think those with mental health problems are more likely to seek fame.

[Hidden]

I think it just proves, money, fame and family can't protect you from your own thoughts. Its sometimes hard to ask for help if you're in a bad way.

Those two were good friends, statisticly the lose of a close friend or family member to suicide has an awful effect on their loved ones, including going on to suicide.

Maybe we should all keep that in mind if we ever feel that low. x

[Hidden]

I am not able to place judgment on anyone who is desperate enough to not want to live. I am not walking in their shoes. Fame, talent, wealth, success and family do not always come with happiness. I sense you are frustrated with the issues you deal with every day, but manage to do so, so why couldn't they? There really is not answer.

[menagerie11]

It is always distressing to hear about things like this, because it raises the question of if it could happen to them, it could happen to me. I believe that we need to make a conscious decision to choose life. We are here for a reason, even if at times it seems obscure. If we feel desperate, we need to reach out for help - either by calling a crisis line, a friend or family member, the police, etc. to get us into a safer situation until the feeling passes. If we need to go to the hospital, then go to the hospital or a mental health crisis resource centre. And then, we need to get serious about seeking therapy and support to help us cope. I was very angry when someone I knew died by suicide. He left a huge amount of pain with those he left behind and I wondered why he didn't pick up the phone and call for help instead of what he did. It's not easy, but we can manage to get through, one minute at a time, if necessary, with the right help and support. In my case, when I feel desperate, I pray, do calm breathing exercises, listen to positive affirmations, do something to refocus (even if it's just watering my plants), write, look at inspiring messages, hold someone's hand, go for a walk, go for a drive, clean my office, etc. I also take medication, and see a psychologist regularly. Anxiety and depression can be beaten and I am going to do my best to win this battle. On a final note, I can't help but wonder if street drugs and/or alcohol were contributing factors. Avoid them! When you brain isn't working quite right, it certainly doesn't help to further complicate matters with alcohol or drugs.

[Corvin1]

I've been a Linkin Park Fan for years, and it was sad to hear what had happened. Yes he might had all the money and fame, but we don't truly know why he did what he did and I feel for his family.

I was told by a friend of mine that the singer suffered from Depression and used drugs to tackle it, if that's true I do not know.

As some of you mentioned here saying that, he/they had all the money to get the best help which I agree, but maybe they were but it didn't work for them? Who knows. Maybe they will shine some light on this In time.

At the moment, we all need to try and help each other in the best way we can, and stay positive and strong... You all probably heard this saying a thousand times, I know I have and it got annoying. But as a father I had to change my way of thinking to try and get better.

I hope you all are well and having a good weekend?

[kelli333 in reply to Corvin1]

Thanks for being so candid. Having a family definitely changes the way you are. That's why it's so strange bc he had 6 kids. I would probably be dead by now if it weren't for my mom (I'm better now). I didn't want her to blame herself and fall apart. I truly feel sorry for his friends and family.

[UFC80]

Yes their lives lost are a tragedy no doubt! Depression/Mentall illness is hell. I know you feel the same ofcourse. Whether they had a great family/kids doesn't diminish the evil power and hold it has over people. I have a loving family which are supportive and caring,which I'm grateful for. Some days I feel like just fading away also.

[Tikirob]

Great post with all the political stuff in media not enough attention to the fact that over 40,000 people commit suicide each year. And it’s obvious it also effects people with money, success , and popularity.

I think it’s the fact that none of us can control death that puts us in the position of contemplating it so often. Suicide is a way of taking control of the sadness we feel when tryin to come to terms with life itself.

It does annoy me a bit to see people who seem to have it all and had it all see nothing worth living for. Part of my sadness is a lack of family and friends, a lack of dating, and the largest part is struggling everyday to get by and fullfil my dreams. But imagine doing all that, living out every fantasy, travel, wealth, fame, instant acceptance into artist circles, and still being so unhappy that you want to end your life! Yet who am I to be annoyed, I am mentally ill and the one thing I understand from being this way is that when your brain is not working well emotionally many negative choices present themselves.

the issue of suicide is so big that it effects even the most accomplished people. The government needs to take a bigger part in acknowledging the mental health crisis in the USA.