Just tired

[Teresa05]

I been have health problem for a while now ,then I going though some marriage problems and I just feel like I want to die,I feel like there nothing to live for

[treebera]

As long as you are still breathing, there is still hope. This cloud will pass - give yourself time and take care of what you need to keep you safe.

[BonnieSue]

You sound like you're exhausted before you even begin! What's going on with you?

[Hidden]

Hi nice to meet you. There is nothing much we can say with so little information. Can you tell us more please ie are you on any meds or having any counselling? What are your circumstances? Do you know why you feel like this?

[Kobojunkie]

Physical health problems? Mental health Problems? If you are really overwhelmed as you sound, please check yourself into the nearest ER, to get some time away from the life issues.

[EmilyAnne9769]

This is the crossroads where you have to decide if your spouse is your best friend (your ride or die) that's going to help you get through this. If so, you can conquer anything. If not, you can't spend your energy trying to fix something that can't be repaired - spend that energy on you and your recovery. I was in a similar situation and when I stopped worrying about others and focused on myself I was able to come out on the other side. I'm here if you want to talk!

[Teresa05 in reply to EmilyAnne9769]

You so right after 39 years of marriage I find that he been on dating sites and sex sites I just don't unterstand he been having issues and when I told him to get help he just put it aside it take a book to tell you my Health issues on oxygen because of blood cloths and I chf and I had both my knees done since Aug and now I having some new problems I really worried about and my famaily it almost like I did this instead of him and so tired how can I get passed this

[EmilyAnne9769 in reply to Teresa05]

It sounds like you know what you have to do. It's not going to be easy but you have an entire network of people that are here ready to catch you if you stumble or fall. You need to focus on you and getting yourself healthy. Meditation and a healthy diet have really helped me out, personally. I'm here for you if you want to talk!

[Hidden]

Take your time you don't have to do everything all at once. Take a deep breath then tell us when you are ready.

[Hidden]

Hi Teresa Yes sounds overwhelming! Just try to take a breathe and take it one step at a time. You have a support group here willing to help and maybe we can help guide you in the direction of a good place to start for treatment. Your in a safe space here. Personally, I wouldn't say go to the ER. Just due to my past experiences, it ended up giving me more anxiety and there wasn't much they could do to help me. I think you can do this, just take a breath, realize you are not alone, and you will be able to get through this.

[Teresa05 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you I just can't figure it out after all these years believe I am hard to live with at times I suffer from depression jut like my mom did and beginning sick as added to it and then him to do that I just feel sick

[Hidden in reply to Teresa05]

Do not blame yourself. It's an illness, it sucks, and its not who you are. I know relationships are tough when mental health comes into play, many of mine have suffered due to it. So I can understand it may put a strain on a marriage for sure. While I am no expert I can tell you the basics: your worth it, you have a lot to live for, especially yourself, you are strong, and you have support. Its a lot. I think maybe talking through a therapist about it may help bring you more clarity as to what the right move is here. I can understand the sickening feeling, it hurts, and you don't deserve it. I think trying to take things one thing at a time, not tackle them all on at once is priority. Your wellbeing is top priority. You need to be good for you. Anywhere you start is fine, just don't lose hope because of the overwhelm.

[Teresa05 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your kind words

[Hidden in reply to Teresa05]

Of course. I just started on this site like 2 days ago, and there is so much support here. So I think you took a good 1st step already

[Hidden]

Are you suffering any kind of abuse Teresa your very brave don't blame yourself

[Teresa05 in reply to Hidden]

No he never put his hands on me it more mental ,because he turn everything back on me

[Hidden]

It might be worth asking your gp for help or access to a support group. If you live in the UK you can access your local crisis team to help you.