I have been with my husband for 16 years, for the past eight years I have been trying to manage my husband depression and anxiety. I love him, but I'm not in love with him. I miss the confident, charming, attentive man I feel in love with. Now I live my two teenage kids and a man who is in himself. He drinks a six pack nightly, sleep for days, and helps very little with the kids. He has gone through many jobs that now he works for his father. Which sometimes he goes to work and sometimes not.
We have been to counseling, he didn't see the benefit and stop. He was going to someone and they gave him mess but he stops.
The issue is three weeks ago I snap, I reached my breaking point. I guess because I lost patience and the ability to manage his depression. I let go and asked for a divorce. I'm sad hurt and I feel like I let him, our kids and our vows down. Yet I have this weight off my shoulder.
Have I done the wrong thing? Is there a support group that I can get help and advice. How can I help him, help himself?