Lonely

[Teshia13]

Some days I just feel so lonely and depressed,I don't want to do anything with anyone and I just barely want to get out of bed, I force myself to do alot of things. I have just been so stressed lately and my anxiety has been up,i just don't know what to do.

[Hidden]

Very sorry to hear you are struggling so much. I do understand & completely relate. I also have the same struggles. My struggles come from always having to navigate through life on my own at a very young age with little or no familial support and that is very hard vs. people that have a lot of support . You didn't mention why you feel the way you do, or if you even know why you do. If you have a family that is supportive that is so important, probably the most , then friends, even just one or a couple ,if they're genuine & you trust them. Problem is with anxiety & depression ,it usually stems from betrayal, abuse & deep hurt & usually from the people that were supposed to love us the most. Be kind to yourself. When you have the energy, reach out to a woman's crisis center, family services agency, even crisis hotlines , they can refer you to places and people that can get you on the road to recovery. It sounds like you are very depressed, probably clinically (long term),sad & feeling hopeless and anxious. There is no way of truly knowing what's going on with you, until a professional evaluates & dx's you. I'm not a pill fanatic or even advocate, but depression is brutal, and sometimes the only way to break open the hard cocoon we form, is through meds & therapy. I wish you the best & I truly hope you will reach out sooner than later, & seek the help that is out there for you to take if you want it. Be Well

[JudesBallet1983 in reply to Hidden]

This is so true. I do feel betrayal and deep hurt from my childhood and I constantly feel as if people betray me now. I am loyal to a point of getting taken advantage of in many situations, and even if others are genuinely kind, I feel that they want something in return. Having such high anxiety makes trust issues very difficult to deal with. Any suggestions for how to relax a tired mind?

[Hidden in reply to JudesBallet1983]

Yes people can destroy your faith in love, kindness, humanity & it can be very depressing, the other side of the coin is there are also great people in the world just like you, sensitive, caring, sadly wounded people put out vibes that selfish people seem to read & pick up on & our desire to need & want to be loved & liked so much starts a vicious cycle all over again. I agree with you too. It all usually starts very young & the type of experiences you had as a young child, treatment, love shown to you , kindness or bad treatment all of these factors ( environment) shape the kind of people we grow to be. It's usually the wounded ones that are the most loving, kind hearted & caring & it's so unfair & very sad. Self care is not being selfish it is vital to health & survival, not everyone deserves a place in your life. Some remedies that have worked for me to quiet my mind are hot milk, movies, reading, music. Medicinally speaking, tranquilizers are helpful, when needed, a psychologist told me

My brain is more than likely wired differently than a normal brain that hasn't been exposed to the longterm trauma I've been exposed to more so when I was younger. Statin drugs (blood pressure) & muscle relaxers( flexeril), are very helpful too, but need to be monitored very carefully & regularly. Anything that induces sleep is very helpful to quiet a racing mind and give your tired body much needed rest.

[momiracle in reply to Hidden]

Can you tell me more about flexeril? My 27 year old son who has a panic disorder is having a terrible struggle with being able to sleep. Thanks!

[mysmugcat in reply to Hidden]

Wow. Recognise these things.

[JudesBallet1983]

Great suggestions. Thank you. It's so reassuring to know others understand what I'm going through.

[Hidden in reply to JudesBallet1983]

I know how you are feeling . I have been the same all my life. I use hypnosis CD's sometime . They can help to relax me sometimes. I do take medication for depression but it never really goes away. Hope you get some help and feel better soon.

[Blush311]

Hi, pace urself, my anxiety has been very high lately as well, but I have to find out what works for you, and know that your stronger then this anxiety. Find out what's stressing you and remove it out ur life.. trust me I know it's more easy to say then to do, but take it one day at a time

[anich]

Right there with you. How are you doing today

[Teshia13 in reply to anich]

I am doing alot better

[Hidden]

Teshia, know that you are not alone. I feel the same way every day. It's hard to get up and get moving when all I want to do is sleep. I try to take it one day at a time, or one hour at a time. I know that it will get better. Try to hang in there. Come on here if you need to talk. Remember that you are special, you are needed, you are loved. Repeat those words to yourself.

[Teshia13 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much for your words,and it did feel good to say that .

[gogogirl]

Me too- sometimes it helps to know that others experience that also.

[mysmugcat]

Me too. The Pacifica app is good someone else suggested it here..

[Teshia13 in reply to mysmugcat]

I actually just downloaded the app and I will try it out