I'm NEW here and am seeking support for spouses and family living with an ADDA sufferer. I am 52 and my wife is 57.
I chose the title because I watched the Green Mile a few years back and realized I am the Warden, and my wife is just like his. But there is no tragic prison hero in real life to step in and remove the afflicting spirits, So I live with it and pray - day-in and day-out.
If you don't know the movie, here is my situation and what I hope to find here. My wife suffers from a multitude of ailments ranging from chronic depression, anxiety, avoidant personality, paranoia, flat out fear and ADD (that I can so far diagnose). Oh and let's spice all that up with a strong dose of alcoholism to give it some real kick.
There is no way to diagnose, confirm or treat any of these because she also has an extreme fear of doctors. A near-death experience will not move her to do so.
Anyone who meets her would never guess. She has an IQ of 145+ and is one of the smartest people I have ever known (one of the reasons I married her) and has a very big and giving heart. But like a high-functioning alcoholic, she has developed skills to divert, dismiss, distract and foil any suspicion or inspection. So, I live in her private world.
This is a tough life but I love my wife. So much so that I have been the one who is on anti-depressants for the past 3 years. I call it situational depression. I really feel I could write a book on what it is like, but I really just want to find some people with whom I may share experiences and possible solutions. At this point my options are few: leave, or force an intervention. Either of which could lead to a very tragic ending for her.
Thank you for reading my sad little story, and I know there are worse ones by far, but I live in her world and really would like to connect with anyone who can help me guide her back in to "our" world.