Feeling like I have no friends

[KatieRichie94]

I will get stuck in this cycle of obsessing over my feeling like I have no friends. A few of my friends have moved and some are away for college and we don't get to meet up when they come here. I see pictures of people on Facebook having a lot of fun and I feel like something is really wrong... I feel like I'm missing friends.

[Kainan]

Hi Katie. I often feel the same way. Like I can't find a single person in my life that's around my age to spend some time with, maybe have some fun. We're all so busy doing our own thing that it's hard to meet up in person like we did in the past, especially at our age. But using Facebook has got to be the worst thing you can do when you feel lonely. I have to deactivate my account every time I give into the urge to go on there so that I know that I don't need it in my life. When you're siting in front of a screen looking at pictures of other people having fun, the urge to compare will arise and it's unfair and just not worth it.

[Stilltrying_]

Hi, I can get like this. There is nothing wrong with us as such; we just need to work extra hard at making those connections. Some people have them all around them like family and they don't have to work so hard. I feel like I am continually trying to make plans with people and rarely get asked to stuff myself although I do sometimes like today ; this is because many people are relatively content with their routine and don't feel the need to branch out like we do.

My advice would be to try and find people in a similar situation to yourself. For example it is no good me mixing with people with families; I need to find people who are on their own and looking for more involvement with people because they are lonely or isolated. People of a similar age group to myself. There are many thousands of lonely people including young people. The internet has a wealth of groups you can join. Here in the UK for example there are "Meet up " groups for just about everything if you live in a big city like I do.

I get frustrated at things having to stay at a polite level and not being able to move much further with people ; would love a "comfort zone" type of friendship wherein someone could come to my house and maybe we could be silent sometimes just having that connection. That is what I feel I want but in the meantime I just keep working at going to various groups, walking, cycling, language groups, social groups anything and at least it takes up the time.

I agree that facebook is a bad thing to look at and you should pay it no concern all the stuff people are putting up. Just don't look on facebook. You look young but sometimes circumstance can mean our friends have moved away or moved on ; it happens ; we just have to keep going and working to make new ones. Hope this helps a bit.

Gemma xx