I wanted to talk about my experiences with counselling. Having undergone several rounds I have found it to be some help. But in all honesty I think it's only really effective after an event such as loss and bereavement. I think for anyone struggling with a lot of problems, it's far too limited, especially via the NHS when time is limited. I never really got everything I wanted off my chest and we never got to the core root of my problem, which I now know was an unwarranted lack of self-esteem and confidence. Allowing things to happen in my life that had no place in it.
The issue for me in counselling is that the counsellor only comes into your life when you're at a low point. They have never seen you at your best or seen what you're capable of. So all they're seeing is a maybe broken person at their lowest ebb. I feel you need to go a lot further, perhaps via a psychiatrist, to delve into the real cause of your life's failings. Most people have a point where they can remember being confident, believing in themselves etc and it is trying to recall that time and be that person again. I truly think that the encouragement and intervention at early stages in depression from those close to you is massively helpful. Negativity and defeating behaviour creeps on you before you know it and then your thoughts change. It's very hard to bring them back. It is hard for people around you sometimes to be honest, they don't want to embarrass you or themselves but I really feel that there comes a point where this needs to be done. Of course it helps if they can be a role model to you and have things worked out in their own life.
thought I'd share, anyone have any thoughts?