I feel so Angry so short changed...the meaning of life, work....

[CarolineLondon]

I hope you don't mind me sharing this with you but my frustration has reached a peak! I would urge you to listen to this video link, this man is very engaging and talks about the meaning of life. It really makes you think and reminds me how intelligent we all are.

robertrowlandsmith.com/webs...

So why so cross? Well the link comes from a website called The School of Life, which runs fantastic courses on how to deal with some life issues, ....finding the job you love, relationships , etc. The courses aren't expensive for what they are. One I'd love to do is by the same guy whose in the link, who obviously knows his stuff its called " Truth and Lies in Business". That one is only forty quid, but its 40 quid I don't have to spare. If you want one to one coaching on getting work etc its over £200! Again Im sure its worth every penny but I don't have that cash!!!

So 4 things that are bothering me ALOT

1) I cant bare the media portrayal that if you don't have a job your lazy and stupid a benefits scrounger....

Can I just say in 2009 Vodaphone had a tax bill of over around 6 billion it actually paid Customs and Revenue £800 million and agreed future payments of a mere £450 million for the next four years, Im sorry whose robbing the state???!!!! Whose causing more damage the benefit scroungers or the F*ckers at Vodaphone, excuse my french and thats just one mobile company if they are doing it you can be sure the others are too. And yet because they wear a suit do a 9-5 they demand respect!

Sorry didn't mean to get on that hobby horse, anyway Im off on another hobby horse now

2) Some of us struggle to get work on here, or have never even had any and it contributes to our depression it's like we are a whole hidden society. I feel angry because there is so much potential so many great people who simply don't have access to the help they need. So 'We' cant afford The School of Life Courses, we who would really benefit from detailed help.

3) Then there is a state that occurs when you are in a limbo where you feel you cant get work never mind hold down a job and those feelings aren't addressed by anyone! Like learning to drive with no car and no lessons and NO bloody road!

4) Then there are the lies, Marketing has ALOT to answer for, you know the stuff, just do this course, just soup up your CV, just dress well, endless hoops you go through...steps and you still don't even get a reply to the 200 million applications you send off. Oh so then you tailor meet every criteria and still no movement.

I just want to find a way to do this, to get that job I love to do it till the cows come home to show others how to do the same.

Why should it be that only the rich get to choose 'to have a life' not just a job.

They go on about youngsters not wanting to work, well Im sorry but why should they WANT to work in some dead end job, long hours wasting their lives in the mere hope of climbing the ladder.

My gripe is this, the good jobs should be for everyone! We know the answer isn't to work harder but to work smarter, but that requires some access to certain resources be that financial, physical, contacts etc.

I know how to be happy in my work and if your honest so do you....Doesn't mean I can get there not right now and Im in my 40's Im not 20!

I don't want this, I want some fairness, not everything has to be fair but I want SOME fairness for US!

My problem is sometimes my anger, my railing against the world can end in tears. There has to be a better way. I don't want to descend into hate, but sometimes I get so angry!!!

Finally this isn't even always about money, sometimes the money is there, how many have been forced to go on empty headed job schemes to be taught how to write their own names!!!! Companies get money to create these schemes which at best deliver certificates, no one gets a job!!!

When I was signing on (don't think Im great, Im merely living of savings now doesn't make me special), I did a job club thing and there was a young lad with ADHD. I must admit I didn't believe in it until I met him, it really does exist and this is coming from a dyslexic...lol.

So he took a job they forced him to take (this is before I met him) that was so low paid and robbed him of his much needed benefits he nearly lost his job.

Now I don't know how there are benefit cheats all I have seen is people who cannot survive on benefits.

Anyway this lad he did window cleaning on the side, went door to door and offered to clean windows £10 a house, he had no van and carried his ladder from job to job. Of course he couldn't grow his business because he couldn't be honest about it and didn't know how to grow the business, no access to the right help. Even when I attended a start your own business course they were hopeless and none of us made it! Im awful at sales and I hate it and what business survives without sales!

The great business giants of this world, say employ and accountant, employ workers, employ a salesman if youre no good at it yourself...I wish. I know Im simplifying and somewhat trivialising.

It's interesting what Robert Rowland Smith says in that clip about midlife crisises and how we cant see our selves in our futures.

Im so sorry Im in such a bad mood, I do think anger is better than depression but Im also aware if Im not careful the big 'D' isn't far behind!

Thanks for listening x

[CarolineLondon]

Sorry the ADHD lad, nearly lost his 'home' I meant and he has a child to think of.

[Stilltrying_]

CarolineLondon you come across as intelligent caring and very socially aware woman . Yes there is so much wrong with the way of the world at the moment and for sensitive people that can mean that we suffer at times.

I would recommend you look into Compassionate focussed therapy. You don't have to attend therapy to do this as there are books available on Amazon.co.uk and there may even be some freebie snippets of the books on the internet. One of the one's I've read is the Compassionate Mind by Paul Gilbert. I would really recommend you look into this as for you it may just be a question of fine tuning your sensitive personality to work for you rather than against you. I think you may suffer because of the cruelty of the world and at times of other people. It is not a question of losing your sensitivity altogether but just of making a surface kind of defence which will protect you a little more than you currently are.

Hope this helps. You sound like a wonderful woman and the world needs people like you. Gemmalouise X

[CarolineLondon in reply to Stilltrying_]

I will I will, I'll check it out, give me a few days and l'll get back to you, sounds exciting.

The fact that you have tried and tested it is a great recommendation.

Thank you so much for your compliments, I'm flattered. It's funny how compliments are so hard to take but we readily accept criticism as the truth even sometimes when it's a lie.

You're an inspiration Gemma ....Up the Revolution! XX

[Stilltrying_]

So true CarolineLondon (that we readily accept criticism even when it's a lie but find it hard to take a compliment). Look forward to hearing how you get on with the book as it tackles this very issue. Hugs to you x