Need some help and advice - No Judging

[Mrs_B87]

Hi, so this may be a a long one, my periods have always been slightly irregular had tests when I was 16 which came back negative for PCOS, I’m now 31, 6 years ago I met a guy and pretty quickly found out I was pregnanct, it was all a massive shock to the both of us and pretty hastily we made the decision to have a termination ( which has ended up being one of the biggest regrets of my life) but at the same time looking back we didn’t know eachother, we were still ‘young’ at heart and wasn’t really ready to be settling down and we didn’t know where we were going as a couple with eachother - fast forward 5 years we’ve now been married for a year, the termination is a massive void in both our lives and not a decision either of would have made knowing where we would end up, we’ve tried on and off to get pregnant again , not like officially checking ovulation dates and around the clock trying as such, but we’ve been relaxed with contraception and if it happens it happens. Then come to this year! February I had the worst period of my life it was slightly late but I could barely walk without a gush of blood making it awkward for me! But period lasted normal 4/5 days , periods from then were pretty normal for me ( as stated above I’m nowhere near regular) my last normal period was May - I was going on a girls holiday and was thrilled to be on a week before flying, as it tied in with the fact that I should have been on again before going on a late honeymoon in June, my period didn’t come before honeymoon which isn’t abnormal for me but then it didn’t come July either ... or August, I ended up getting my period around 8th September, was normal and ended about 4/5 days later, around 2 days after this I started spotting which would change between red spotting / brown spotting slight cramping, this carried on on until 11th September until I went to see gp, she felt internally, and touched my stomach and didn’t seem all that bothered about anything typically this is the day bleeding stopped, then 1 week later I was bleeding as if I was having a period again, but only for 1/2 days and now I’ve had spotting since again! - this past week I’ve had a cold which has turned into being full up with a cough, two days ago the spotting for a little heavier but not quite enough for a bad then yesterday was like a period and again through the night, I’m struggling to an appointment with the gp, their and absolute nightmare and last time I went she was so relaxed about the whole thing I felt kind of silly, - I’m not having an cramping now or sore breasts or anything am I just having a normal period now? And the spotting inbetween is due to the fact I hadn’t had a period in a while? This is the first time Iv ever posted in anything like this so any help or advice would be massively appreciative

[bantam12]

The only option for you is to see your GP, does your surgery have a nurse practitioner who you can see quicker than the GP ? they can refer you to a Gynaecology clinic if needs be.

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Have you asked for a referral to a gynaecologist or endocrinologist to get to the cause of your menstruation & fertility issues? Unfortunately GPs don't seem to know much, & some think they know more than they do so they're reluctant to effectively pass patients on. Female patients are often treated as hysterical for being overly concermed or pushy about their health, which is dreadful. If your usual GP doesn't take you seriously enough to get the help you need, see a different GP at the practice.