Fell off the wagon big time :(

[HS90]

I don't know if anyone has noticed, but I haven't been on the forum since April. I fell off the wagon big time, and only now have kicked myself to take a good hard look at the damage I have done over the past months.

I'm not even sure why I have been so poor with my choices over the last few months. Life does have its ups and downs but everyone deals with that. Nothing majorly troublesome has happened to me either. I just seem to handle stress with food, and happiness with food...

The only big change I can think of is returning to work after maternity in May. But I like my job, and I have been enjoying being back (despite workplace dramas...another story), although it has been a challenge adjusting to a new routine.

Anyway enough moaning. On to strategy. Before I was intermittent fasting (Skipping dinner) and walking 15-30 mins a day. My day is 5 times busier now as I need to get all my chores done first thing in the morning, and sometimes I work late. 2 kids in tow as well plus usual evening routine. I dread the walk to school now especially in the heat, so I need to find something that can work for me around this busier life. It might take some trial and error but I need to do something. I have been feeling so unhappy with my appearance lately that I nearly broke down yesterday. My stomach seems to have increased in size the most, none of my clothes look flattering, and I just don't feel pretty.

I hope I can stay on the wagon this time, I really do.

Thanks again.

[moreless Administrator 7 stone]

Welcome back, HS90

I think most of us are creatures of habit and any change of routine can put us off kilter. You just need to come up with a new routine that fits in with your new way of life.

Making a commitment to logging onto the Daily Diary and Weigh-In could help you and your family, because you can plan healthy meals for everyone and it would make you accountable. You'll get lots of fresh ideas and you'll hardly have to think about what to eat.

Exercise in the heat is difficult for everybody, but maybe you could try swimming, with or without the rest of the family - do you have a partner that could help with childcare?

Whatever you decide to do, we'll all be here to support you

[Gemma4]

hello. I feel exactly the same as you: I am unhappy, I want to lose weight (especially my tummy) but I don’t seem to have the will power to make the food choices I know I should make go help me lose weight and fit into all my lovely clothes: shall we do this together? Kept each other motivated. I’m getting weighed this morning (lord only knows what the numbers will say) - bran flakes for breakfast. I will make today a good day with good good choices

[HS90 in reply to Gemma4]

I feel you! Sure I'm up for that! It's going to be portion control and IF for me. I weighed myself thus morning after being a bit better yesterday- and my weight dropped almost a kilo which is laughable. I know its not a true reflection but still made me happy lol

[moreless Administrator 7 stone in reply to HS90]

I hope we'll be seeing you and Gemma4 on the weigh-in today then

[Hectorsmum2 Visitor]

You might want to add the support of overeaters anonymous. I have found weight loss with them a totally different experience. I have lost four stone. I think having the support of people who have stayed slim for many years having previously been very obese has really encouraged me. Anyone can join who has an issue with food and there are meetings online through out the day and night.

[focused1 Maintainer 13kg]

Are you on your own or can you get someone to look after the children whilst you have a walk with a friend or join a class like Zumba where you exercise with friends and to me it doesn't feel like I am . Children are fantastic but demanding and I feel that is why I comfort ate when my kids were in bed coupled with a job - I really admire you . I could cry when I lift up my T shirt and see the rolls of blubber hanging from my rib cage downwards but - I have had little time for myself recently grabbing the odd snack then collapsing in a chair at 9pm with Bombay mix and a can of various sweet drinks . Chatting to a friend in very similar position we are going to kick each other into action as my weight has increased 5kg since Xmas and I need harsh action . A person to vent with , have a moan with but that time isn't with any other demands and away from that kitchen which mine is open too many hours . I feel you need distraction and time away from being in a place where food is too easy to grab .

[Bluelady-sing Healthy BMI]

Relapse is sometimes you think to yourself I'm making so many sacrifices cutting out so many treats punishing yourself and still the weight you're not the slimmage you want to be so you then have a relapse and then you feel worse than beforeI know exactly how it is thing to do is to recognize when you're feeling weak and low and then trying to avoid it with an unevitable treat.

I had exhaustion this week so I had to spend two days resting I've gone back to my park walk and I feel okay I'm going to do 20 minutes hit exercises as well today.

Don't beat yourself around the bush just try to relax or you could work a try to work 3 squares of plan choc in to your diet calories, that way you've got your cravings under control.

Sugar is addictive that is the other thing it is addictive as anything else I think we all forget that.

Just pause take some time to comprehend what has gone on give yourself some time and space and then get back into your routine