Why is losing weight so HARRRRD? After a very healthy beginning of the year, I’ve just relapsed into all the bad habits. I have no desire for regular exercise, drinking a lot more now and just generally being unhealthy.
I need to find my way and mojo back please. Any advice or positive vibes would be appreciated.
Life tip: if something is unexpectedly difficult, it's probably cos you're doing it wrong 
When you eat genuinely healthy meals, you'll feel a deep, visceral sense of contentment and vitality. You will also start to lose flab (because your body doesn't need it anymore - excess bodyfat is primarily a defence mechanism against an inappropriate diet). You will not feel inclined to "relapse" into bad habits.
Relapses tend to happen when people try to eat in a way that's either inherently unsustainable (eg., ignoring your appetite and restricting food intake) or which is inherently unhealthy (eg., too much stodge and too little fat).
Here's a really simple guide to eating real food:
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Follow this and your life will get better in many different ways.
PHCUK have a bunch of other stuff here:
😳 I was just reading your reply, and was thinking "oh T.A.T. you make it sound far too easy...".. I'd been feeling relaxed, well and focused for a few months eating-wise, and this last week has been a serious struggle. Really heading off in the wrong direction again.. then I REALLY read your reply... it makes oh so much sense. I always make the same mistakes. Overtime things, when are going well, I just start trying to push it too much, and end up having a backlash afterwards. So pleased to read what you've written. It has reminded me at just the right time... so I can stop my self destructive habits and just get back in a more relaxed mindset!
The way I sustained losing weight over 13 months was to eat only food I really liked. That didn't mean anything I liked but what I ate had to be nice.
May I ask what sort of food are you eating that you consider to be a 'bad habit' and is there food you enjoy that you might be missing out on? 😄
Hello and welcome Adisa
Oh dear, I feel a big note of despondency here Motivation comes from within and is not always easy. You have made the first step by coming here, the next step is to think about what you were doing, was it sustainable, maybe not as you stopped. Do you need to find a different approach? Make your weight loss journey an enjoyable adventure instead of a long boring drag - yes it can be enjoyable Join in here, we have plenty on offer to help you to stay involved and focused, become a participating member every day. Join a weigh in day of your choice and join the Daily Diary, you will find lots of people sharing menu's, following several different plans, see if any of them inspire you. If by 'drinking a lot more now', you mean alcohol, we also have the Drinkless Club you could join in with. Their is a Fit is Fun club that might motivate you into at least going for a walk a day or you may find something else there that you might like to try.
Small steps will start your journey, so for today have a good look around here, make a plan and go for a walk
Everything you need to know about the forum is in pinned posts, start by reading the Welcome Newbie post and then look at all the others that are listed. Navigating the forum is best done on the website and not the app.
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As a peer to peer support group, we all benefit from encouragement and support from one another, so look forward to seeing you join in around the forum
If you haven’t already taken it, here is a link to a tour of the forum,
Wishing you the best of luck
I started to believe that weight loss is only hard if we focus exclusively on it. My own weight loss happened when I finally stopped trying to lose weight and started to try to live every day a little bit healthier, one choice at a time. Then the weight loss came as a byproduct. Hopefully you can find what suits you, because it’s really not about losing weight, it’s about making sure to get and stay as healthy as possible.
Someone once said this to me: "Losing weight is hard. Being overweight is hard, with all the health risks that entails. Choose your hard". A bit harsh maybe, but that's the reality of it! So keep going Adisa . You know it's worth it in the end.
What is your body type? If you are a endomorph you will find it hard to lose weight naturally.
Hasn't body classification as a defining characteristic for health been largely discredited? 🤔
Genetics plays a part, but I think your weight is down to your activity, healthy eating and lifestyle. i don't think anyone should be deterred from healthier living because of any particular shape they perceive themselves to be. 😄
Sending loads of positive vibes your way!!.. I've had a bit of a self-destructive week too, so am going to draw a line here and now.
You've got some great replies here with some good practical advice.
Hope you're feeling more positive now
For me it was having a real reason to lose weight that I really believed in.
Initially that was my OH being rushed into hospital with dangerously high BP and realising what our unhealthy diet was doing to him and me. We have granddaughters we want to be around for . Once his BP was normal (tablets and change of diet/drinking) I realised that I was feeling so much better. The crap food and drink on top of healthy meals was just a habit that I no longer need. Now I have more superficial things that motivate me. Recycling clothes that are too big, having my curves back.
Why do you want to lose weight?
Good luck with getting back into it.
Hi Adisa,
I don’t or should I say didn’t like regular exercise until I started exploring home fitness videos on YouTube. Now I exercise everyday and actually enjoy it. I also find that I am so much better motivated. My diet is generally healthy, nothing processed but like you I like a drink. Sometimes we just have to work at one thing and no try to do too many things at once. Stick to one thing for a few weeks then start on your next goal be it, food, exercise or drink.
Good luck.
Thank you so much. This particularly useful for me.
Tomorrow is another day, would you like to draw a line under it and turn it around by joining us on our weigh in? Here's the link, hope to see you there! x
Hi Adisa, I've only been following a healthy diet for 5 weeks now, joined here last week. I've taken advise from my various doctors, nutrition nurse and hospital consultants and then I sat and watched a lot of utube videos on various "dieting methods", looked at lots of recipies for a healthy diet and from there follow the doctors on calorie intake and adjusted all the other info i could find to find foods that i like that will work for me. I'm a simple and basic eater, probably called old fashioned in some ways. I dont like sauces, not really into fruit and only like a smallish range of veg, and generally only tend to eat chicken and white fish.
Even so, i'm actually eating in a totally different way now and havent felt hungry yet. I have mushrooms on toast/omelette/poached egg on toast for breakfast. Lunch tends to be soup (500ml) home made, i bought a soupmaker a couple of weeks ago. For my tea i make a bowl (mixing bowl! Lol) of "salad" (normal salad stuff plus veg) then add soft cheese and either sausages, chicken, nuts, sultanas, banana etc. Once a week i have a jacket potato as i love them and dont not want to eat them. I guess what i'm saying is its ok to make up what you're eating and to just eat the things you like. I couldnt do this if i had to eat things i dont like.
Good luck and enjoy experimenting x
Your diet sounds genuinely healthy as well as enjoyable. You should see some results soon!
Thank you, I'm so pleased to be finding this journey fun and easy at the moment. I've lost 13.1kg so far (still a long way to go) but i'm realistic enough to know that this will slow down/plateau but with all the support here and with a select few friends i hope to get through those stages too xx
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