Hello

[margaretm715]

Hi. Over the last 18months I've put on just over 2 stone. I feel fat, frumpy, unfit, and not as confident. I know I'm not exercising as much as I should or eating as healthy as I should. It is hard at the moment as my husband has terminal cancer. But I really need to start looking after me too. X

[YellowRose55]

Hi margaretm715

Welcome to the weight loss forum.

Sorry to hear about your husband. You are so right you do need to look after yourself too.

Take a look at the Welcome Newbie post in the Pinned post section at the right hand side or at the bottom if your on a mobile. Have a look at the nhs 12 week plan, many members have had success following this plan. Use the BMI checker to work out your daily calorie allowance.

Have a look at the Daily Diary which you can find on the Home page in Events. It is where all the members are sharing their daily plans on what they are eating and any exercise they are doing. This thread will give you some ideas on how to start.

Below the Pinned posts are the Topics where members share a range of weight related subjects.

Take your measurements at the start together with a photo so you can see the changes on the days the scales don't move.

We have daily weigh ins so why not come along and join us today. You can find the weigh ins on the Home page in the Events section on the right. Just click on the post in Events and record your start weight and any loss/gain or maintain for the week.

To get the most of the forum be active, share tips, recipes and experiences. Read some of the posts they are very motivating.

Have a good first week.

Rose

[EllaMidlands]

Hi, welcome. Thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry to hear about your husband but you are right you need to look after yourself. Look at making some changes which are sustainable. You don't need some hard work temporary thing. Little changes really do add up. Give yourself praise for doing your best because it isn't easy. I wish you well and hope to see you on the forum regularly 🌸

[lucigret]

Hi margaretm715 , I'm so sorry to hear about your husband - it must be a very hard time for you, but you are right, you need to take care of yourself. Loosing our confidence is a horrible feeling. You have come to the right place for support. I agree with what Rose and Ella have said, just popped along to say 'Hi' really. Keep posting and let us know how you get on.

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Welcome margaretm715 !

My mum put on a few stone caring for my dad just trying to tempt him to eat with chocs etc. You're doing a great thing. It's so very hard.

Try an app like my fitness pal it helps me to be more mindful of what I am eating. It's also quite quick to fill in. If possible try to get out for even a short walk it will help your mind. X

[Bernieis8]

You are both on a hard road

Can you take short walks during the day

If friends ask if there is anything they can do to help ask for company on a stroll

[margaretm715]

Thanks guys. I'll look at the things suggested. I do try walking the dog for a couple of miles a day when my hubby is asleep and son around.