I miscarried at 11 weeks in February although I think in reality the baby died a few weeks before.
I grieved and recovered as well as you can. The loss is still painful but I’d accepted it. I panicked about conceiving again especially as rates of recurrent miscarriage and conception seemed linked but went with the sensible opinion that you need to be mentally ready first.
I was ready. Conceived in month 2 of trying and was so relieved it was quick.
Following miscarriage 1 which wasn’t monitored for thyroid - I asked a lot and was always told the next appt person would be interested. I wasn’t going to be fobbed off again. I took guidance with me to gp demanded testing and he was great.
12 week scan this week and no heartbeat now I’m waiting for surgery and praying I can hold out that long. Waiting a week when you know the baby has no heartbeat is devastating.
So I am obviously trying to work it all out. While I totally appreciate miscarriage is still so unknown I am angry and not currently willing to accept the rubbish support of you did nothing wrong and it wasn’t meant to be. I saw the scan I grew a healthy baby, a baby with no heartbeat. I had weekly acupuncture and the acupuncturist can’t fathom it. I was well monitored with TSH, T3 and T4 I was hideously sick.
I have cancelled lots of plans due to sickness, my husband is exhausted after running around after me for nearly three months.
My daughter is 4 and knew about miscarriage 1 she doesn’t know about miscarriage 2 but can sense something isn’t right. She asked me when I was going to have a new baby this week. She would make the best sister.
So I’m heartbroken but now wondering if thyroid is to blame. My dad has autoimmune condition. I’ve been told mine is likely but I don’t think confirmed. My thyroid originally broke down after my daughter was born.
I see a private dr who wasn’t concerned about miscarriage 1. I am angry I grieved and did what I could to prevent a repeat, I fought and got testing but the same outcome.
I didn’t go gluten free and tbh I struggled with all food when pregnant I’m not sure what I could eat.
Apologies this is super long:
A) do people recommend an immunologist for this issue? Zita West clinic seem to work on immunology expensive but I will do that if need be.
B) does AIP diet prevent miscarriage?
C) is it normal to wait for week 16 or longer for endo referral when pregnant, gp thought it would be quick....
D) will antibodies stay high and should I get them tested ASAP?
E) adoption success stories welcome in considering it all atm
I hope for a positive outcome and so wish miscarriage was the rarest of things x