Please HELP

[ickytoots]

My boyfriend just came in to visit iv been totally fine not much craving. Don't want to smoke again. My bf has stated he will not be giving up smoking EVER fair play to him I love him. But he kissed me good bye I had to lie about why I pulled a funny face he stank of smoke. I've turned into a hypocrite what can I do help!!!!

[Briarwood Administrator Ducky]

Hi icky toots, errrrr maybe get a new boyfriend😂😂😂😂😂

No I'm only joking but unfortunately us non smokers really have an acute sense of smell when we quit😷 even more so I think than people who have never smoked. As smokers don't know how bad they smell, it's pretty hard to convince them. Get the mints ready for the next kiss😏 and a large bottle of mouthwash👍 you're not a hypocrite but things are different for you now and you can't help that. Talk to him about it and I'm sure he loves you too and will be understanding and make every effort to support you💕😃x

[ickytoots 10 MONTH WINNER in reply to Briarwood]

Jeezo I could never ditch him he put up with me doing it even if he can't smell it. I was honestly ok with him smoking in front of me but kissin was BIT STRONG I'll need to brooch the subject xx thank was just a big shock to turn into a hater so quick!!!!

[Briarwood Administrator Ducky in reply to ickytoots]

There are quite a few of us on here who quit but our hubby/partner/ or whatever ya call them still smoke👎 of course I'd prefer it if mine didn't, but he does and that's not going to change any time soon😱

You just got a shock but it will all be fine, so don't worry and remind yourself how well you're doing😃x

[ickytoots 10 MONTH WINNER in reply to Briarwood]

I did I got a big shock.. I don't like the smell of smoke. How good am I gettin SMOKE FREE FOREVER...

[monky Administrator Cake sniffer outer in reply to ickytoots]

Aup Icky defo a hard one this gal

I'm with Briarwood and Glolin on this just let Jeezo know how much you love him, but also let him know that he stinks of fags too and try to work something out between the two of you eh, maybe you give '' HIM'' a couple of mints or the mouthwash before he kisses you goodnight

Icky, I ask you please not to get onto him toooo much, cos he will just smoke even more if you do eh just let him know how you feel and how well your doing

Good luck

[glolin LONG TERM WINNER]

Hi icky toots,

It is a hard one, but you don't want to offend your boyfriend either. Like briar said, have a talk to him, and explain how your feeling as he wouldn't realise how much he stinks 😫😫 it's not till you quit that you really smell it.

Hopefully he will support you through your quit journey💟

[ickytoots 10 MONTH WINNER]

Bad thing is I know he supports me I'm just going to have to grin and bear it ain't I xxx

[monky Administrator Cake sniffer outer in reply to ickytoots]

Icky, this is your incentive to quit and quit for good

Your job now is to do a good job at quitting, if you see what I mean You show Jeezo that you CAN quit and although its hard, it can be done even by a mere Woman I know its early days for you yet, but let him know how better you feel, how better you smell, etc but dont moan just sort of little digs here and there eh

Please just give it a bit of time and you never know, he just might decide to quit himself

[ickytoots 10 MONTH WINNER in reply to monky]

A mere woman lol your funny he might quit I can always hope

[monky Administrator Cake sniffer outer in reply to ickytoots]

Hay Icky, one never knows gal, one never knows

You take care now and try to keep focused and positive on your quit and keep reminding yourself WHY you want to quit and become FREE again

[shantimar]

Hi there icky toots 😄

My hubby still smokes but I don't care that I offend he knows his place and that's it 😜😜😜

Seriously it is difficult I've said before I even smell smoke on him even after a shower 😕

Like the other two lovely ladies have suggested have a heart to heart with him and explain things. I'm sure he'll understand and carry mints 😃😃

Good luck to you with your boyfriend and your quit

Keep in touch

Xx

[ickytoots 10 MONTH WINNER in reply to shantimar]

Thanks it's so help ful I think it was the initial shock of the smell god I spent most of my adult life smelling like this Ew xx

[roneo The legend]

There's an old "churchy" saying...."hate the sin, love the sinner". He's still the same bloke as he was before you quit. If you value your relationship, whatever you do, don't put pressure on him to quit because you have. By all means ask him to respect your decision to quit & not to impose his smoking on you. The was a pastor in Argentina who challenged new converts NOT to tell anyone.......unless they asked. If you can demonstrate the benefits from quitting & how much happier you are, believe 90% of smokers will want to know how you did it. If you're grumpy, miserable & critical of smokers you sending a message that smokers have more going for them than non smokers. If his smoking is a deal breaker, that's OK, but if you love him, love him unconditionally, stinky breath & all. He may never change, but if he quits because you pressured him, he will harbour some resentment which will ultimately destroy the relationship anyway.

[ickytoots 10 MONTH WINNER in reply to roneo]

You make so much sense I DO LOVE HIM SMOKE AND ALL I don't want to get the bad name of the nippy non smoker. With all derogatory comments so hear is to day 4 for me NOPE XXXXX

[roneo The legend in reply to ickytoots]

For what it's worth, there's an ole bloke down in Aussie who is very proud of you & your progress.

[Briarwood Administrator Ducky in reply to roneo]

Hey Ron, I'm proud of you too 😘😘x

[roneo The legend in reply to Briarwood]

Thanks Briarwood. You just gave me a surge of oxytocin. Hugs to you too!

[ickytoots 10 MONTH WINNER in reply to roneo]

Oh my your so sweet ... Can I ask you one more question is it normal to go off your food at the start of quitting?? I can't stomach much at all just now?? That's been for 3out of the 4days iv quit? Xx

[roneo The legend in reply to ickytoots]

You're blessed! It's not uncommon to mistake nicotine withdrawal for hunger. It can be very easy to substitute cigarettes for food. If you are abstaining from cigarettes without increasing food intake, that's great! As long as you're meeting your minimum nutritional needs, you'll be fine.

[ickytoots 10 MONTH WINNER in reply to roneo]

I'm meetin the needs of my body but just when iv been having snacks iv felt sick!!!