Day 4... Sort of :(

Hi everyone!

I am brand new to this site and I am also brand new to quitting. I say 4 days (sort of) because after going strong for three days with the patch I smoked today. I was so proud of myself during my smoke free time that now since I have relapsed; I feel so much guilt as my partner is still cheering me on as if I was all free and now I have this pit in my stomach. This is also leading me to feel as though 3 days was the major hurdle and to give that all up on day 4 is stupid and now I should just start up again. Ugh. I am hoping to start fresh tomorrow morning and awaken to another smoke free day. Some advice and support would be amazing!

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  • Good morning Jettagirl,

    Welcome to this wonderful site :)

    Don't worry about having a cigarette, as Emjay, one of our advisors would say, this was a practice. Are you using any NRT or stopping cold turkey?

    Think about what made you smoke, this way you can plan how to avoid this the next time, if you read the blogs on here you'll get lots of info and help, the other members will be on soon and also Emjay or Eye, our advisors will give you loads of help, there brilliant. You can do this, you've only had a blip, that lots of us have had, come on here and have a scream and a moan if you need to, or have a laugh, we're all here for you, join in the daily chat.

    Good luck, you can do this, Sue, :)

  • Hi Jettagirl,

    Welcome to our online stop smoking community :-) A place where you'll find plenty of help and support to help you to get to where you want to be, all at a time and pace to suit you :-)

    Congratulations to reaching 4 days of being smokefree, at least you have given it a go and proved to yourself that you can do it. As Sue says, this was your first practice attempt which means you now have the experience behind you to learn from - ready for your next run :-)

    Everything that you are feeling is pretty normal and most people feel the same. It sounds as though your partner is being very supportive, this is fantastic. Rather than think of the ones that you have smoked so far, think about all the ones that you haven't smoked. I bet you've missed a fair few out, and probably saved a few pennies too :-)

    Planning and staying positive are the two things that I would say will help you to be successful. Have a read through the breathing exercises too and start practising them. This will help you when it comes to dealing with cravings etc.

    You can do this and we are with you all the way :-)

  • Thank you! That made me feel a lot better. I will explore this site and use all of the tips to assist me in my success! Thank you Emjay and Sue52 I really needed to hear that!

  • You're very welcome! If there is anything that you can't find but would like to know, please just ask! :D :D

  • Aup Jettagirl, and welcome to this lovely quit site :)

    The girls have said most of it and excellent advice too :) I've had ermmmm numerous attempts at quitting :o cos am old :| and I find the first few days easy, then !! 4th 5th day, it starts :P so as the girls have said, try to be prepared for it :) try anything, scream and shout, kick the dog, as long as its a stuffed one eh :D punch the cushions, try Emjay's breathing exercises, anything !! You get through that day, and it will get easier, day by day :)

    Emjay posted this a while ago, I expect you've got thoughts like it :o Speak soon, Pete :)

    Little sweet Angel and Little red Devil

    Posted by EmJay ROY CASTLE

    I thought I'd chat a little bit about this little pair here who you quite often find perched one on each of your shoulders

    The night before you stop smoking, you generally listen to the lovely sweet voice of the little Angel, she tells you ;

    "You can do this"

    "You'll be saving so much money"

    "You'll be so much healthier"

    "Life will be better"

    "I don't like smoking"

    "I'll smell better"

    Then the next morning you wake up, feeling okayish, then you reach for a cigarette and remember about making that decision to quit smoking...

    Then the first craving sets in.....

    The little red devil has a louder voice, he tells you;

    "Go on, you can just have one cigarette to start your day"

    "You can quit later"

    "You'll feel much better if you smoke"

    "You would have spent the money on cigarettes anyway"

    "You know you really love smoking"

    "It will affect your sense of smell, so you won't even know how bad you smell"

    You overcome the craving, you don't realise it at the time until it comes back the next time. However, for it to 'come back' it must have 'gone away'. Remember this, as it is all part of your confidence building and learning that you are taking positive steps forward.

    Little Devil: "Go on, just have one"

    Little sweet Angel: "One will lead to another"

    You: "I am not going to smoke"

    Little Devil: "Just buy 10 cigarettes instead of 20"

    You: " At least this will mean I'm still having a go, still trying"

    Little sweet Angel: "You're doing so well, it will get easier"

    You: " I am choosing not to smoke"

    As the hours/days/weeks pass by you notice that both of these little voices will get quieter and quieter until eventually you won't have them about as often.

    The voices of this little pair are only your own inner voice, it's important that you understand how powerful the words are that you say to yourself.

    Keep your thoughts and words positive and remember that you are stopping doing something that you no longer want to do anymore.

  • Hi Jettagirl,

    How are you doing? I hope your weekend has got off to a lovely smokefree start. If you need any support, you know where we are :D

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