That’s what my parents used to say when I said ‘I can’t do this’ and then they would patiently explain that the majority of the time it was getting your mind to understand and/or comprehend that this was the way it was going to be and that I could do it and besides that, there was no such word as can’t!! Just shows how times have changed though no I’m not saying that the word can’t now exists in a dictionary but if you type on a word document can not it tells you that the actual spelling is cannot so some things do change.
Reflecting today on the past 3 months – can’t quite believe that it is so long ago – and my very unsuccessful attempts at quitting the dreadful habit called smoking I have realised that it is mind over matter and technically, yes, the brain does play a big part in it as well.
The mind together with the brain must be thee most complex parts of the human body. I mean everything that we do or say involves the mind and brain, for example, right hand pick up that cup, the mind knows what it has to do and sends a message to the brain which then sends the correct signals to your hand to enable it to do the task. Open your mouth to speak, and your mind again notifies the brain which then sends the correct signals to not just your mouth but your voice box and a host of other things so that you can actually speak.
I have been thinking today about my original quit – 10th March. A lot of water has passed under the bridge since then. Also a lot of false starts, true and good starts but all with no finish, no (happy) ending. So what have I done that I shouldn’t have, what haven’t I done that I should have and more importantly why so many with the end always resulting in failure every time.
Well, as I said earlier, reflecting on time gone by, I firmly believe that I have now found the answer. It might not be the correct answer for everyone but I am certain that it is the main reason I have not finished what I started. The answer is my mind – in my mind I am and always will be a smoker and I have done nothing to change that train of thought. I have completely ignored the fact that the mind controls my every waking and sleeping moment and if my mind is not convinced that I am a non-smoker how can I blame the rest of my body for carrying on smoking? I can’t – not logically anyway – because if the mind truly believes that I am a smoker, then surely it follows that I will continue to smoke.
So I have to ask myself how do I correct this (huge) problem? Well, the relatively simple answer that immediately springs to mind is I have to teach my mind to think differently. May be easier said than done but to start with, I have to teach both my mind and my brain to think in terms of the fact that I am, from this moment in time, a non-smoker. I have to teach my mind/brain not to ‘need or want’ the atrocious cocktail of chemicals that I have religiously been feeding them for more years than I care to think about. I have to teach my mind/brain that it does not need these chemicals in order to function – in order for me to function in reality. I have to teach my mind/brain that these chemicals are going to be taken away. I have to teach my mind/brain that it will and can survive and function perfectly well without those noxious chemicals and nicotine. I have to teach my mind/brain that I am in control and I no longer smoke. I have no need to smoke. I do not want to smoke. I have no desire to smoke. In a nutshell, I am and always will be from now on, a non-smoker.
Brave words I can hear you all say but brave they may be and hard work it will be but I will do this. I will do this because I have to otherwise I have no control whatsoever over my life and by doing this I put myself back in charge of my destiny. By putting myself first, second and in every other place, I know that becoming a non-smoker will benefit me in so many ways and by doing this, my mind/brain will be one of the main beneficiaries along with my heart, my lungs in fact, just about every functioning part of my body. Even my arms and hands will benefit – no more scrubbing at the yellow staining on my fingers with Ajax and a nail brush, no more cleaning my teeth 3 and 4 times a day because of the smell of smoke on my breath. No more worrying about my clothes and hair stinking of stale smoke and how horrible it must be to work with someone who stinks to high heaven.
In a nutshell, I have the freedom of choice and the new me chooses NOT to smoke – so listen up mind and brain as well, I no longer smoke. Got that – well you will eventually because I am not going to cave in this time. This time, I will make it past the first hurdle and whatever you may put in my way, be that more hurdles, stumbling blocks, obstacles or anything and everything really, I want to be a non-smoker and I will be a non-smoker!
I am resolute – I CAN AND WILL DO THIS – no matter what, this time I will not fail of that I am positive – well, I think I am