Going through car accident problems

I was in a car accident in May of 2015 I broke both arms both wrists my left eye socket, my femur bone where it meets the patella. I've been at a #4 ever since I had the operations to fix myself.

I'm so fustrated and still going through the motions, and emotion's that this car accident caused. I'm going to keep it real and say what I need to. My marriage has been falling apart, because my wife just doesn't seem to understand what I'm going through. Its so fustrating to hold a sex life, because I can't bend my knee and I have tried everything I can, but she thinks I'm cheeting on her.

Pain is ruining my life, and not being able to find a pain Dr is just as weakening.

Please if someone has any ideas, please leave me a message, here or please text me at 6083590980

Troy G

12 Replies

  • Troy

    Get some pain help from your GP. You don't need to see a pain specialist, your own doctor is more than competent.

    Good Luck


  • Thanks Jim I do have an up coming GP appointment.

    And I'm going to try and get some help from him.

    But it's hard here in Wisconsin, with this opieat epidemic going on.

  • My pain doctor appointment went badly backwards he thinks I'm in the addict. And I don't know if I'm going to get anywhere with him. Have seen my general practitioner he was willing to prescribe me opiate for the next two weeks until I find a pain doctor or pain clinic I guess I need some room.

  • I made some progress

  • It's nice talking to you again Jim I just wanted to reply again I was kind of a little hazy yesterday but about my GP I see him tomorrow and I'm going to talk to him again about pain relief he doesn't like to prescribe opiate pain relievers he wants me to go to a pain specialist which I went to and they told me I wasn't a candidate for it and I just thought in the back of my head what a crock. So off to the GP tomorrow I go going to ask him to help me or sign a pain contract. I've been going through this pain ever since my accident in May of 2015 at 6:40 p.m. believe it or not I remember the exact time of the accident as I gazed at the the clock in my car. But I'll try he's very grumpy and getting him to prescribe for a short period of time might be deemable. Thank you for responding and if you can think of anything else please send another message my way I am very computer savvy so when I look I really dig deep I found a lot of over prescribers but I don't want to be a fudgesicle I just want to be me without having to be at a pain level of 4.

    So thanks again.


  • Have you tried speaking to your wife about how you feel? Have you told her that you miss your sex life? Please try holding her, kissing her and reassuring her. Of course she can't understand what you are going through. Pain is an extremely isolating experience. Although men usually equate sexual contact with intercourse it is much more than that, and women need tenderness at least as much.

    Speaking personally I have come to realise that my constant, long-term pain is in some ways (obviously not physically) worse for my husband than for me. He has to watch helplessly from the sidelines and, I'm ashamed to admit, too often have to listen to me complaining about the pain. Or him, which is usually completely unfair and always unnecessary.

  • Yes I have tried speaking to my wife about what's going on inside my body and also specially what's in my heart with no avail. You have to understand that she is an addict. Having her present around me brings me bad luck.

    She's just supporting me because I'm going to have an opiate prescribed for me.

    We have since split apart, I cannot and will not raise my son in that environment.

    Troy Goodrich

  • I am so sorry that you have to deal with all that as well as physical pain.

    Did the pain management team give a reason for you not being a candidate for their help? It is possible that another team would take a different view. What does your GP say about it?

    Although I take opiates myself I'm not sure that I would recommend starting them. It's a trade off, at best, by some pain relief and extreme fatigue. If you are bringing up your son I would avoid them if at all possible.

    There are a number of books on pain management and I imagine your local library would have some you could borrow. It might help.


  • Jenny,

    Thank you for your kind words, I'm so filled with emotion right now, and confused about the rest of my life.

    It's like I constantly can't think of any thing else.... But pain 😖.

    My Heart Loves her, but my mind says otherwise.

  • See an Alexander teacher. You need to re-learn all sorts of muscular functioning skills. It is also worth while taking up yoga in a yoga class. This will help put you back in touch with your body.

    Wife may think you are cheating on her because of your body language. Your body language may have shifted considerably as a result of the car accident. Hence you may be giving out all sorts of messages that you may not realise that you are doing.

    Hope this helps.

  • Cant you bring your wife along with you to a doctor and maybe they can explain things to her?

  • It may be too late for me, we've been through this accident together, but her behavior has guided me to this point.

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