Each of us is an individual and each affected differently by this disease, the way we think about it can also make a difference, sometimes without us even being aware of what we are doing. If we refer to ourselves or think of ourselves in a negative manner this becomes a habit and a habit thats hard to break. Many of us agree that often thoughts come and go so quickly that we barely have time to acknowledge them, but if we try to think positively about our small achievments and allow ourselves the reward of some self compassion but not self pity we can learn in time to begin to change our negative thoughts into positive ones.
No one knows your RA and how it affects you better than you, thats not only how it physically affects you but how but also how it makes you feel.
Heres something i posted some time ago that many on this forum found helpful as away to picture and understand this, i hope newer readers find it helps them reflect on how this happens and that it re inspires ones who may have lost the habit to re new their efforts.
The Two Great Wolves
An old Cherokee is watching a storm with his young grandson as thunder booms and roars all around them "The great wolves are fighting" comments the old man. "It frightens me" replied the young man. The old man replied "those two wolves cannot harm you, but be aware of the two wolves inside you that fight and howl inside you, they can be dangerous". The younger man questioned "fighting wolves inside me? I dont understand" The old man said one wolf is bad the other good, both howl as they fight,the bad wolf howls of anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self - pity, guilt resentment, inferiority and lies. The good wolf howls of peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith. The battle has raged long,many times and many days". The young man listening as the thunder grows louder asks "grandfather which wolf will win?" the wise old man replies "my son the SAME wolf always wins" the young man says "so many battles and the same wolf ALWAYS wins?, but which wolf wins grandfather". The old man answers without looking away from the storm "the wolf you feed".
Have the best day you can my friends.