I've seen it many times over the last few days, posters being worried they're moaning. I guess I equate that with whining, and I wrestle with the fear myself. What do you suppose the difference is between them? I mean, I've yet to see any post that struck me as being self-pity or unjustified complaint. Why do we think this about ourselves? I think it's partly the idea that I was whining that kept me from telling my doctor about my hands and knees for the last 10 years or so. Clearly the idea was mistaken and unhelpful, but it's still hard for me to come here and say 'OW' when I see so many strong survivors, and people coming through difficulty with grace.
Maybe you all ought to know that this is how I see you, then. If I can tell you, perhaps some day I'll figure out how to tell me, too.