Doubting myself

Almost 3 weeks in and feel on the whole I have done well except this afternoon when real doubt crept in and rocked me. within a few mins I went from a normal frame of mind to complete acceptance that I will always be a slave to fags !!! I have put my heart and soul into this and I was so shocked how quick my mind changed !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am ok now but it has left me feeling fragile, a little bit nauseous and scared.

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  • no No NO NO NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You shall not bow down so easily and take complete acceptance that you are a slave to the fags because you are not it's just the addiction making you think you are, you HAVE to battle especially in the early stages otherwise as you obviously want to quit you'll end up in a circle of quitting then caving only to quit again and cave again, you have to put a stop to the cycle and tell the demon and the sub-conscious mind for once and all to go and i62.tinypic.com/a41k6a.gif it's self.

  • Sorry to hear you've had a bad day Gerti but well done for getting through it.

    The early days are hard. I remember it all seeming so impossible I was in tears.

    As TG says, get through the bad days any way you can. You know where you want to be, you have to believe you can get there and there are lots of good people all here to help.

    Hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

  • Do not let the doubt build. You got through this crave and you will get through the next one. The only thing a cigarette will do is increase the crave, cigarettes are the reason you are craving NOT quitting. There will be an end to the craves but only if you don't feed them.

  • Gerti your mind didn't change....you didn't smoke! It was the nic trick to lure you back. See it for what it is and remember that as long as you never smoke again things will get better. If it's any consolation it's being spinning me a few stories over the last 2 days as well. Hear it by all means but laugh as you won't give it what it wants!! Remember just how filthy they are xxx

  • Thanks to you all. I had an early night and will keep myself busy busy today with lots of deep belly breathing in between.

    I definitely wont lose to a dead plant x

  • Oh dear I do hope today is a better one for you, I guess to quit the fags you have to push through the crave, but what I can say is, the longer you quit, the weaker the crave, it's just so horrid when these strong craves hit, but you are doing fantastic, just keep going, you are so close to month one, just keep posting and reading, tell yourself your not going back to day one,

    Doing amazing, quitting can be hard, but as time passes it will become easier

  • Gerti, all I can say is WELL DONE GIRL! :D:D:D

    It's horrid when one of those 'curved ball' craves hits you but you dealt with it admirably and with considerable aplomb and should be extremely proud of yourself. It's compartively straightforward to prepare yourself to deal with events where you can anticipate a crave may hit but much, much more difficult to ride out the unexpected land mines such as that one. You did it and the next time anything like that happens your armour will be that much stronger and (as Tracey says) the crave will be weaker.

    I really hope that today is a much better day for you...:)

  • Yay! You got through it. Gosh, there's so much of what you say that resonates with me. I think I'm doing fine and then WHAM. It hits me. I'm fixing my brain on getting through a day at a time. We've done the Christmas build-up, ChrIstmas and now it's a whole new year. Smoking is so last year now. I'm actually looking forward to getting back to work on Monday because I know it'll be a whole lot easier. Don't doubt yourself- you're very strong.

  • Thanks for all your posts, they truly help. I have had a much better day today with mild to non-existent craves, much like what I have had before over the past 3 weeks. Yesterdays whammy was big, it was the strongest crave I have had to date and it came out of the blue. I skipped into bed early last night, watch Miranda (love her) and birds of a feather and today has been a breeze due to the fact I have kept busy. Feeling stronger again xx

  • So lovely you've had a better day, these craves do pop up, but believe me, they do indeed become less tense.

    Just keep going, doing great

  • Almost 3 weeks in and feel on the whole I have done well except this afternoon when real doubt crept in and rocked me. within a few mins I went from a normal frame of mind to complete acceptance that I will always be a slave to fags !!! I have put my heart and soul into this and I was so shocked how quick my mind changed !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    I am ok now but it has left me feeling fragile, a little bit nauseous and scared.

    Hi Gerti,

    In what feels like a long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away, I was locked in an endless cycle of one failed quit after another. Looking back, with the benefit of hindsight being what it is, I now realise the reason was very simple - I could resist the urge for a few days, or even a couple of weeks, but in the end I would always cave to the crave because, ultimately, I just knew that smoking would cure the crave.

    After lots of reading of books and forums, I got a light-bulb moment and was able to turn the whole argument on its head. Every smoker knows that a cigarette will silence those craves - but think about it; it was cigarettes which caused the craves in the first place! Cigarettes don't solve the problem, they cause the problem! It seems so obvious to me now, but when I finally, truly 'got it', it was a real turning point - smoking is just one great big con-trick!!!

  • Thank you, I am using every one of your tips and advice is being absorbed like a sponge. I feel a bit tired in the afternoon and so I have decided to get a 10 min nap in to try and bolster myself for the evening time. I totally get ' Cigs caused the ruddy problem in the 1st place' and once they die off it will be easier. I read Neil Casey book and its my number 1 book of choice. On the whole I am so so so so happy in myself and am getting so much done that its brilliant. I am grateful to each and every one of you, thank you xxxx

  • Thanks Karri. I am trying to bury my head into a bit of sewing today. I am going to make a round pin cushion but am struggling trying to fold a 6 inch circle into 6 equal segments lol totally baffled x

  • Thank you KarenCA pincushion finished, very happy and will try and post pics when I can x

  • Every smoker knows that a cigarette will silence those craves - but think about it; it was cigarettes which caused the craves in the first place! Cigarettes don't solve the problem, they cause the problem!

    I told myself there was no physical reason for the craves since all the nicotine was gone therefore all I'd be doing by smoking to alleviate the crave would be to reestablish the physical cycle of dependency.

    Both very good points, which I'm adding to my quote list!

  • and in a nutshell

    the craving will NEVER EVER end as long as we smoke but IT WILL END if we quit for good. Just keep putting 1 foot in front of the other, ride through them rough days and slowly but surely we will all get where we want to be

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