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32days, and I failed. The stress got too much, and I was depressed. Had an uneccessary fight with hubby because I was selfish. Asked him to buy me smokes. Lasted another 2 hours after he bought me smokes and that was it. It is my fault that he gave in as well. I made him throw 12days away and he went through the ****ty feelings of Champix for nothing.

I feel like **** failing and even worse because hubby started again as well. Smoking mightve made me feel calmer, but it still did not change things between me and hubby. In fact, it mightve made it worse.

Thanks for everyone standing by us for the while we stopped, it did help. I am sorry I failed myself, my hubby and you guys.

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  • Oh that's a shame :(

    We have all failed in the past though so try again when you and your OH feel you can, we'll be here to help you!!

    Don't beat yourself up, that's the worst thing you can do!!

  • Unfortunately, failed quitting is par for the course, but it isn't the end of the world, although it can feel like it.

    What I find useful is breaking down the thinking process as follows:

    Am I human?

    Am I allowed to make mistakes?

    Has the world ended because of my mistake?

    Would I treat someone else the way I'm treating myself, for this mistake?

    Am I being fair to myself?

    I know it feels like an all or nothing situation, but it isn't. Think about how you'd be treating someone else like Gemma or Max if the roles were reveresed. Would you be mean and nasty to them? Would you tell them it's the end of the line?

  • be nice to yourself

    Sorry to hear you are feeling bad.

    There is no failure - just steps on the journey. You decide where you want to go next - congratulate yourself for getting this far and plan your way forward.

    Plenty support here and help along the way. Good luck

  • 32days, and I failed. The stress got too much, and I was depressed. Had an uneccessary fight with hubby because I was selfish. Asked him to buy me smokes. Lasted another 2 hours after he bought me smokes and that was it. It is my fault that he gave in as well. I made him throw 12days away and he went through the ****ty feelings of Champix for nothing.

    I feel like **** failing and even worse because hubby started again as well. Smoking mightve made me feel calmer, but it still did not change things between me and hubby. In fact, it mightve made it worse.

    Thanks for everyone standing by us for the while we stopped, it did help. I am sorry I failed myself, my hubby and you guys.

    Hey Liquid

    I also caved this weekend, lots going on with family and stuff, too much to drink last night and you know the rest of the story. Im going to start day 1 tomorrow as have had a smoke today too.

    Please come back here with me. I hope things get sorted between you and hubby, BIG hugs xx

  • You havent failed you managed a month without the nasty weed.Big congradulations for that, Stopping smoking is not easy but worthwhile dont get to down and take the positives from the situation you managed a month without smoking, . You may have relapsed but there is light at the end of the tunnel. Just dust yourself down and jump back on the wagon.:)

  • Try a little assistance for stopping smoking!

    Hi,

    I just read your post! I smoked from when I was 16 yrs old until 6 months ago, just over 16 yrs of smoking. I had tried on several occasions to stop but always failed either because I had a smoke after a stressful day in work or out at the weekend having a few drinks. But six months ago I bought myself an electronic cigarette and I swear by it! I have not looked at another cigarette since. If I get the urge due to stress or having a drink with friends I just take the electronic cigarette out of the draw! It works brilliantly, a lot of my friends are now using the electronic cigarette and winning their battle also. You still get the feeling of having a draw like a cigarette and get the nicotene you crave. A lot people say they are not tested and don't know how save they are. But seriously it can't do anymore harm than a cigarette does. I have included the link where I got mine just copy this in your browser

    (Advertising link removed M5)

    it only costs £20 and includes a free bottle of super high eliquid, its worth a try for anyone who is struggling to get of the cigarettes! I hope this is helpful.

    Geoff

  • Hiya Geoff,

    Ecigs aren't my thing, but I know someone else who they could be ideal for, could I ask you how long one of their bottles last and how easy they are to refill? Also, what's their delivery like, because they aren't something that can be purchased in my local shops.

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