Anyone including me while quitting will miss the fags with the degrees of pain in the ""****"" and will wonder what to do. During past few days, such moments came and I thought of giving in just for "this time"....then I take myself to future as it has already happened ...OK...You've already smoked the "ONE VERY SPECIAL CIGARETTE" and after 5 minutes what will be you thinking? Relaxed, in heaven, peace all around, happy, laughing, blissful, etc etc. Or depressed, angry, with low self esteem, dipping confidence, thinking of all previous efforts to quit including this one that turned into failure...and so many such negative thoughts Why I did this, whats wrong with me, hate myself, blah blah.....
Ok...after smoking that "very special cigarette" you've been thinking about again and again during your quit period....now you need more to settle and think clearly ...right...so you buy a packet...smoked few with mixed feelings of shame and guilt....and within few days you back to what you've been smoking before quitting ....
Question to ask is ...If this is what I choose to be.....Am I satisfied that I'm smoking again...if I yes then you may continue but if you're again thinking about quitting then it means you don't want to be smoker and your decision to smoke "that one special cigarette" was not a smart move...then I come back to present and decide not to smoke and let the moment pass....
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A very wise way of looking at things. Every craving is a crossroads, with one path leading back to stinky hell, and the further down the road to non-smoker you go, the less appealing that fork becomes. The trick is bringing that imagery to mind when you're faced with a craving.
Have had a fair few quits in my life - was a real serial quitter but they didn't usually last more than a few days, actually since I smoked my first fag in 1997 only 2009 and 2013 have been totally smoke free years - yes it was that bad :/ but until the last one I didn't really care, shrugged and sparked up.
My last quit was 18 months-ish long, stopped because I was ill and got nagged into staying quit - well that and realising *what* I was coughing up :eek: - but I blew it in 2010, smoked a couple of fags felt rubbish for having done it but kept the packet for smoking here and there. Before long I was smoking 10-odd a day again and when I realised exactly what I'd done it literally made me cry, quite a lot actually.
But the point is that no matter how long you're quit you can't have "just one" because like all addicts we just can't.
I had a conversation with someone yesterday and compared it to an alcIoholic, once they realised how real the comparisson was, they were shoked. He had never thought of it like that.
I 'feel' that yes the sun is out and normally I would be sat in it with a cig and my memory thinks that would be really nice to do that right now BUT i know that if I have just one, that dormant Nicodemon will wake up again. I will never be able to have even just one puff. someone said why not try herbal???WHY???? just stop, crave, shout, strop etc but eventually, it will become a habit to be a non-smoker :D
I hope they meant the legal kind of "herbal cigarettes"
(which are disgusting, by the way)
mmmm, I am sure they did, they probably smell worse than the normal nicotine ones too and cost the same and there must be chemicals in them or they wouldnt burn...anyway not going there! hope you are well Gem xx
mmmm, I am sure they did, they probably smell worse than the normal nicotine ones too and cost the same and there must be chemicals in them or they wouldnt burn...anyway not going there! hope you are well Gem xx
They're foul, way worse than the nastiest proper fag I've smoked. I bought a pack a few years ago to try to cut down on real ones (pointless I know 'cos it's still smoking) and could only smoke half of one before I wanted to throw up. :eek:
That's a good tip, had a few moments like that. Especially today... Made an excuse to go out, even bought 10 fags and a lighter, thought I'd just have "that one"..... Thankfully somethhing deep inside was stronger the demon and threw it all away. TOTAL waste of a fiver, but pleased I did it..... "that one" has always been, and always will be a point of failure. And tho you convince yourself it will just be one your back to 20 a day before you know it
That's a good tip, had a few moments like that. Especially today... Made an excuse to go out, even bought 10 fags and a lighter, thought I'd just have "that one"..... Thankfully somethhing deep inside was stronger the demon and threw it all away. TOTAL waste of a fiver, but pleased I did it..... "that one" has always been, and always will be a point of failure. And tho you convince yourself it will just be one your back to 20 a day before you know it
It takes a lot to be able to do that, I very much doubt I could have thrown the pack away after buying them. You should be very pleased with yourself, you had an awful craving, so bad you actually bought smokes, and yet you beat it. I'm very impressed. As for the fiver being a waste? It showed you how strong you are, I think it was money well spent.
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