Serial quitter

Hija all and fellow new year quitters! Nice to "meet" you and thx for a life saving forum.

I have been trying to quit for the past seven years. My last quit was 10 months and I failed last summer. Now trying again, but really struggling with the thought of never being able to smoke. There are no rational reasons for starting again, but I can not seem to get this monster out of my head. I just keep wanting one and at the same time hating my self for it. Argh! I am finding it soooo hard to keep fighting this fight all the time, every day, every hour. I am tired of quitting and most of all tired of fighting. I wonder if there will ever be a day when I could have a glass of nice red wine and not think about smoking?

Any other serial quitters out there who share the pain or have managed to finally do it?

Roosa.

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  • Hi Roosa and welcome.

    Since very few smokers succeed in quitting on their first attempt, nearly everyone on here is a serial quitter, so you aren't alone there. Quitting for 10 months is bloody good, well done!

    The thought that "never being able to smoke again" is a bad thing is addict thinking. The truth is, never smoking again is an enormous blessing, not some terrible life sentance! Root that bullshit thinking out, it's a lie. (Not that you are the only person to suffer from addict thinking, or bullshit thoughts, :o)

    You can do it Roosa, keep posting and keep sharing the bullshit thoughts and addict thinking! :)

  • 10 Months wow that is amazing, my longest has been 7 months and my reason for starting again was not because i wanted a cig but because My friends all seemed to be enjoying a cig and I was jealous hahaha...how stupid does that sound...crazy addiction smoking..I have quit numerous times but there comes a point when enough is enough and that point has come for me..trust me I am thinking about smoking even now but it is getting less and less, I am only 11 days into this quit cold turkey and IT IS getting easier...never stop quitting that is my motto, I will not start again this time, I have to keep telling myself that everytime a crave pounces on me. I WILL NEVER SMOKE AGAIN...

  • no that feeling

    hi , i no how you must be feeling ive been there , I have try to give up so many times and never got pasted day 5 with out having a drag , but then telling my family o yer i can do this on week 2. but this time am on day 19 and no ive not even had one drag. why because i really want to be a non smoker , i can kid the world but can't kid myself ,yer its hard but i want it so much , keep reading posts on here it will help so much to no we are not along , good luck , keep at it ;)

  • Hi Roosa,

    I feel EXACTLY like that! some of my friends are saying " well maybe your not ready" and thats not helping cos its almost like they are giving me permission to buy cigs if that makes sense? I will confess rhat today ahs been my worst day by far... I woke up and as soon as I opened my eyes I burst into tears becaue I remembered I dont smoke.... also cried and wailed to hubby about how shit life is right now, no fags, no money blah blah blah... it is without a doubt the hardest thing I hve ever attempted and I have attempted it numerous times... my longes ttime has been 5 weeks which is pretty poor compared to your 10 months... keep up the good work tomorrows a new day and I hope we feel a bit better xx

  • it will get better

    hi donnaj , chin up , hang on in there , am not going tho the tears now I've do that , and the i feel sorry for me lol funny how cigs can get to you , will pass your mind will tell your body all sorts of things just to make you have that drag, but its a drag that drags you under , don't give in , you can do it x

  • Hija all and fellow new year quitters! Nice to "meet" you and thx for a life saving forum.

    I have been trying to quit for the past seven years. My last quit was 10 months and I failed last summer. Now trying again, but really struggling with the thought of never being able to smoke. There are no rational reasons for starting again, but I can not seem to get this monster out of my head. I just keep wanting one and at the same time hating my self for it. Argh! I am finding it soooo hard to keep fighting this fight all the time, every day, every hour. I am tired of quitting and most of all tired of fighting. I wonder if there will ever be a day when I could have a glass of nice red wine and not think about smoking?

    Any other serial quitters out there who share the pain or have managed to finally do it?

    Roosa.

    Well its 4.5 years for me now. I was where you are in 2008 and initialy it scared the crap out of me the thinking that I would never smoke again. However when I saw quitting as a positive process and let go of the idea that by doing so I was depriving myself, the idea of never ever having to smoke again was rather more appealing.

    It takes a bit of doing but its all about the right attitude, stay strong and see your quit as regaining your health wealth and control rather than a sacrifice. The only thing you are giving up is a self harming via tobacco!

  • Thank you all 4 the encouragement! I wish I could turn my thinking around like NicFirth suggests, but for some reason I keep missing it when I've quit and hating it when I smoke. Loose loose situation. Today I have a cold which actually helps, so bring on sore throat and running noses :)

  • Practice makes perfect, you smoked for years and built up associations between smoking and numerous situations and emotions. It will take some time to break those associations and learn to live without a fag in your mouth. Its not a switch that you can flick and overnight you become a non smoker you just have to stick at it and make a concious effort to change your way of thinking.

    Good luck

    You can do it!

  • Roosa, when you say you miss smoking when you've quit, are you sure it's smoking your missing, or is it that you experience a general feeling of "there is something missing". I get that general feeling, yet don't immediately think I have to have a fag (any more). Maybe try and separate the sensation of missing something from the thought of "I'm missing a fag/I want a fag".

  • Biggrin, you have a good point there. I think I miss the reward aspect of it. I used to plan and go for a smoke after finishing something, like after cleaning, making dinner, completing a presentation etc. Now there is nothing and its a bit depressing. I try not to replace this empty time with eating now. Not sure what to do with all this time... other than come here to pick up some motivation :)

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