anger management .

[nsd_user663_24115]

Im beginning to worry about my angry outbursts recently. im sure that smoking keeps the lid on it and now that iv quit my anger can be quite strong. always for a reason but the strength and depth of it is begiining to cause me concern. I know what im angry about its just that small things seem to press a trigger and a torrent of it comes out. recently i challenged some yoots who were abusing someone. i know it was the right thing to do but i could have been killed. iv just returned early from a short holiday withmy sister who iv been having a few disagreements with recently. i flewinto a rage with her and had to come home. anger has never been an issue for me until i quit smoking. i think iv probably always used smoking as a way of avoiding conflict and now that its gone.... well im boiling mad at a lot of things. im thinking of seeking help /advice for it as my relationship with my sister is now completly ruined and so too is my reationship with the rest of my family of origin. i dont have a family of my own not yet anyway. its a good job really while my anger is like this.... i know iv said in previous posts about anger that its good to embrace it but not so sure now. As my quit has progressed my relationship with anger has gone pear shaped, any feed back /advice would be welcome.

Mash x

[nsd_user663_4121]

I think many of us used smoking as an avoidance strategy and anger certainly seems to come up for quite a few. I think it's all about change, moving forward, and embracing your new life..... giving up smoking is an amazing first step.... smoking made our bodies so toxic and I do think it impacts tremendously how we feel.... it takes time to heal but with it will come a more peaceful way of feeling. Eating healthy and exercise and possibly getting into meditation are the best things I can think of to work through your anger. Those are obvious things but I just can't think of a quick fix for this one. I don't believe you've ruined anything with your sister/family. We all make mistakes, they love you I'm sure, and a sincere apology will clear it all up. You're not alone in this, just know that x

[nsd_user663_4121]

Just thought of EFT tapping... it may be a bit out there for most but it really works and could be more of a quick fix.... I've got a friend here where I live who does it and it helped me quite a bit. Here is more information regarding it....

eft.mercola.com/

[nsd_user663_24115]

Thanks Bella, your right about the apology, i need to do it and will once my ego gets out of the way. i tried the EFT tapping and it did make a huge difference i knew it would i totally trust anything so new age cos its quite ancient really. I love your name by the way. i used to have a great aunt bella.

Mash x

[nsd_user663_44633]

I feel angry all the time. I always have done, since I was little. Smoking seemed to subdue it and now I'm not smoking it seems to have got really bad. Nothing I can do about it though. Just monitoring it from day to day. Can't believe the effect not smoking has, I'm starting month 5 tomorrow and I STILL feel wierd.

[nsd_user663_18145]

Getting angry was never an issue with me when i smoked i was so laid back and proud of the fact that i could control it

but in the first few months it scared me how angry i could get and it shocked both myself and my family :eek:

luckily they understood and in time i did manage to get the control back

i started using tapping, mindfullness and relaxation technics which i found really helpful and still use them to help with stress and my depression

they are not connected with my quitting but with my health probs and pressures with my mum

hope you manage to get to grips with yours soon you have made a start by acknowledging it taking slow deep breathes and counting to ten does help or just leaving the room to take some time out will help as well

[nsd_user663_32615]

Sorry to hear that you are struggling with this, Mash.

I don't know what to suggest, although the advice you have already had sounds helpful.

I have come to believe that quitting does seem to involve a kind of personality shift. In my case, I actually got calmer over time. Along the way, though, I suppose I have sometimes not always been clear about what changes are related to not smoking, and what has been a reaction to life that would have happened anyway.

What I do want to say, though, is that you are doing fantastically, and I hope that you know how much you are valued on this forum. I hope that things get easier for you.

[AngryBear]

Hey Mash

not sure I'm in any position to offer advice to be honest, I'm only on day 8, but I sympathise whole-heartedly; my wife said last night that it had been like living with someone else this last week, and not in a good way :(. Her and the kids have basically tried not to talk to me as far as possible, which isn't good, so this morning I've tried to actually get on with life as it is and tried not to think about fags all the bloody time...also I'm keeping an eye for triggers so I can deal with them logically and try to avoid the build-up of phantom resentments I keep getting. Whether this will work I can't say yet, but I've been calmer this morning, the missus doesn't look like she wants to kill me (she did yesterday!), so hopefully today will be calmer, but I sympathise Mash, my temper this week has been ridiculous :eek: and I hope you're still going with it, posts like yours have helped me all week!

[nsd_user663_60582]

help

I gave up on sept13,2013 & it was very hard for the first 2 weeks but what concerns me is my temper...I get very angry at my co workers & I have to find a way to control it...Little things trigger this..If I keep this up I am going to be out of a job.