OK here's my first rant on this forum, therefore I do apologies before I start.
I am my wifes carer as she has severe mental health problems. To make things worse for her, she has just lost her dad and her mother has been diagnosed with cancer after being clear for 11 years and only has a 30% chance of survival. I obviously do the best I can for her and in our own way we muddle through and always get to the light at the end of the tunnel. However, her family has decided to involve themselves in recent events and even though they obviously believe that they are helping, they are only making it much worse for my poor wife, by throwing unexpected things her way and expecting her to be the one to sort it all out.
Fair enough, most of the time I handle the problems and manage to keep things going in the right direction. But today they kept phoning with silly questions, suggestions and comments that my wife has no control over or abillity to rectify. To the point that she became very very distraught.
Because of this, I became so wound up myself that the only way I stayed away from have a cigarette was to make myself angry. That way, I was able to say to myself that I would not let anybody ruin all the good work that I have done over the last 4 weeks.
The thing that really gets me (yes I know they probably don't mean to), is that other people have the power to wind me up so much with their petty ways, that I have to get angry with myself to manage something that I have been able to do for a month in a calm and controlled way.
If I for some reason fall off the rails, then that is my own stupid fault. But I will NOT allow other people to push me to the point that I throw all my hard, productive work away.
Anyway folks, that is it, rant well and truely over. Normal service will resume shortly lol.