eeek...perhaps a Day 3 rant

Ok so almost at the end of day 3....has been an ok journey so far - but i knew the weekend was going to be hard.

Had a mandatory leaving do after work - 1 glass of wine then literally HAD to leave because was scared of the tipsy 'losing inhibitionsness'. eek! i struggled on, took a nicorette mini on the bus and it slowly passed. Trouble is now i am at home, really wanting another glass of wine... but honestly scared because i know it would make me want to smoke :(

I just cant imagine this feeling going away - the goal is to be able to go out on a great night out with my friends and get sloshed and not think about smoking or at least not be bothered about it - will this ever happen?! Because right now I cant imagine it. aaaaaaaaa i get so jealous of all those people in the pub who have NEVER started and can just enjoy themselves. i want to be them :(

does drinking ever becomes pleasureable again after quitting or is it in the back of your mind forever?!

Just had some toast - totally unsatified lol. Dont want to develop a fear of drinking and going out with my friends for the fear of losing control :(

SORRY for the rant, you are all so positive - but this (the VERY end of day 3) is by far my hardest point.

Hope you are all being more positive than me :)

Lisalooxxxx

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  • relax...

    They say if you can get past day 3 it gets a lil easier. After today your body will be nicotene free, which means anything else that pops up in ur head about cigs is all a mental thing. I am 28 days cig quit and my last drink was on Jan. 23rd. I have yet to drink, I dont feel up to it yet. I have to stop and ask myself "am i really strong enough to drink and NOT smoke", my answer "not yet". Last night was the first night that I placed myself in a room full of smoke and smokers at the B.I.N.G.O place. I am used to drinking and smoking while playing bingo. BUT, I DIDNT DO IT. I didnt take any alcohol and I didnt smoke. So, all that being said, my next step.....I may have a drink soon. You just have to be honest with yourself. Me? Im not ready just yet......Hope this helps you out. Good luck and congrats on day 3!!!

  • Hello Lisaloo,

    Please don't apologise for having a rant. We are all here for good days and bad.

    Firstly well done for avoiding the temptation tonight. Thats shows a real commitment to your quit :)

    I suppose having a second glass of wine depends on whether you live close to shops? I don't so whilst I waited 4 weeks to have more than one drink, I am too lazy to walk to the shop after a few so no matter how much I wanted one I know I wouldn't have one so it didn't matter how much I wanted one.

    Not sure if that makes any sense as had a glass of wine myself this evening :o

    I know a few other folk waited a while to have a drink but its whatever works for you. All my previous tempts failed whilst drinking alcohol so I was very nervous about it.

    Been out on a fair few nights out and rather squiffy and been fine so far. You can enjoy getting drunk without cigs I promise.

    Almost day 4 :)

    Debsx

  • thanks so much for your advice. I am having a second glass - seeing my friends and having a wee vino or two is a big part of my life and i dont want to give that up too (1 vice at a time lol) so i figure i should get used to it from the start (if that makes any sense!?) but i am sipping slowly, watching tv, knowing that i could always have a nicorette mini worst case scenario or just go to bed. no i dont live close to shops wahey! but OH will be in soon who does smoke. think i may adjourn to my bed to watch a dvd when he comes in though lol, i dont want to be as crabbit with him as i feel!!

    thanks for telling me it is possible eventually - there is hope!

    PLEEEAASSEE let this be easier soon :(

    Lxxx

  • The first days and weeks can be tough but having a drink and life in general will get better. You just need to tough it out, tale it at a speed that is good for you and you will face some of your triggers and drinking is usually a big . Was and is for me. The trick is to face them and get through them. The more often you do the less effect they have on ya. At what speed should you do this? Its personal and you need to figure out what you can handle. On occasion I run into something I used to do while smoking and it brings a crave/trigger on, even at 6 1/2 months quit. Kinda blows me over but I just step back and deal with it the best I can.

    Peace

  • I'm in the same boat - 3rd day and normally we would be having a few drinkies but as i know both vices go sooooooooooo well together i've been drinking tea tonight!!! ooohh the excitement. But chuffed i've not had a ciggie for 3 days :D

    OH has also given up so its a great support, don't think i could handle him smoking a few yards away from me - the temptation would be too much, or i would probably just lock him out!!!! :p

  • You are a braver woman than me drinking with a smoker in the house lol. I had to stay sober even out in a smokers company for a month before I felt able to drink. It was worth it to sort my head out before being tipsy in company. I still went out, just went out sober.

    Seriously though, hope tonight goes well but be aware of the dangers of getting merry with cigs in the house. I posted as someone who lives alone so I guess it is different.

    Let us know how day 4 goes :)

    Debsx

  • Well Done!

    Hello Dondon,

    Well done to you too :) Day 3 is a great feeling.

    Keep fighting the good fight and see you on day 4 :)

    Debsx

  • Hi Lisa :)

    Well done 3 days done and dusted the feeling of wanting a dfag with a drink will go but take it gently as you did tonight OK

    Life will become even more enjoyable without the fags OK

    Below is my standard welcome and advice post which I try and give all new members

    Welcome to the forum and well done on the decision to quit possibly one of the most important you will ever make and you will be losing nothing but you will regain control of your life and that has to be good

    You will find all the help and support you need on here as we all help each other just like a family we are here for you every step of the way cheering the good days and sympathising with the bad but the good far outweigh the bad

    Read the posts on here you will find a lot of tips and advice and in the signatures of a lot you will find links to other sites just click on them Here are 2 I find very good to start you off whyquit.com and woofmang.com Read, read and then read some more as the more you read and learn about why you smoked and about your addiction the easier your quit will be

    This link is good for the psychological part of quitting whyquit.com/whyquit/A_Sympt...

    Post often to let us know how you're doing, to rant, rave have a moan whatever you like pretty much anything goes on here OK

    Love

    Marg

  • thanks everyone - i diiiiid it :D well i only had 1 more then went to bed but still - progress!!

    thanks for all your words of wisdom, you are so supportive :)

    oh and bye - i'm off to day 4-7 forum wooohooooo!!

    xxx

  • This was a mega, mega one for me too. It ruined several good quits! But in answer to does drinking ever become pleasurable? I have finally learnt to drink without smoking! It felt like conquering Everest seriously, as drinking was never really enjoyable without the smokes, and drinking always brought on big craves....It's a breaking associations thing and will go in time, (probably take longer than a few days though, to be fair!)

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