day 52

can any one please help me. it,s been nearly 2 months but i,m still going through hell. my skins bad, my scalp flaky,i,m still crabby with everyone and low. i,ve got a metal taste and always tired. at the mo though i,m having probs with my 17yr old whose very hormonal, a full time carer for my mum who,s had a stroke and i just can,t win with and my aunt died today. do you all think this is why i,m finding this giving up fags hard right now. i still think about them but won,t let myself give in. thought i would find it easier by now.:eek::(

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  • Oh becky, i am sorry things are not going well for you right now but smoking wont change anything the problems will still be there weather you reach for the ciggies or not... two months smoke free you are doing so well you should be so so proud of yourself stay strong hang on in there .

    June

  • Good lord. that's a lot of stuff to have going on! No wonder you want a ciggie!

    It's automatic to want one when we are stressed- as smokers , smoking was our response to any situation. When we were stressed we smoked, and it made us feel better because we were addicted to nicotine, and felt "relief"

    It does get better. I had a very stressful year this year, and used stress as an excuse to go back several times to my addiction. It didn't help. I just got addicted again!

    It does get better, and i think that you are struggling morecos you're having a bad time.

    Hope things get better for you.

    xx

  • I dont post very often on here, I just read, but felt I had to reply to you. Smoking will not resolve your situation , trust me it will only make you feel worse as you have done so well up to now, your skin will be 100% better than when you smoked, just give things time to settle down.People are hard work, hormonal and a downright pain in the arse, and take advantage all the time but you were too busy stomping off for a fag. instead of dealing with it to realise how bad they really are!! , I know ive had to find different coping mechanisms (other than threatening violence LOL)but things will get better. I know im 10 days behind you but I had loads of manure to deal with and I came through it without smoking . I was a little nasty to a few people that didnt deserve it and I have apologised profusely , but I also gave some people ,(who have taken the piss for years when I look back on it) a few home truths (instead of buggering off for a fag and not resolving anything) and now am on a better footing with them .PLEASE DONT SMOKE AND GIVE UP ON HOW FAR YOU HAVE COME

    YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT TAKE A STEP BACK AND GIVE YOURSELF SOME 'ME TIME'

    Take care

  • Hi Becky :)

    Well done on 52 days that's great but so sorry you're finding it really hard

    All the things you're feeling are normal hun I'm also sorry you have all theses problems to cope with but please hang in there you've come so far already and it really does get better Promise

    Below is my standard welcome and advice post which I try and give all new members

    Welcome to the forum and well done on the decision to quit possibly one of the most important you will ever make and you will be losing nothing but you will regain control of your life and that has to be good

    You will find all the help and support you need on here as we all help each other just like a family we are here for you every step of the way cheering the good days and sympathising with the bad but the good far outweigh the bad

    Read the posts on here you will find a lot of tips and advice and in the signatures of a lot you will find links to other sites just click on them Here are 2 I find very good to start you off whyquit.com and woofmang.com Read, read and then read some more as the more you read and learn about why you smoked and about your addiction the easier your quit will be

    This link is good for the psychological part of quitting whyquit.com/whyquit/A_Sympt...

    Post often to let us know how you're doing, to rant, rave have a moan whatever you like pretty much anything goes on here OK

    Love

    Marg

  • Hang in there

    I'm sorry you are having such a tough time Becky. Sometimes the world throws the book at us, and then some. Take a deep breath though and hang on in there until an easier time. Just think, if you can get through this tumultuous time without a fag, then the easier, happy times will seem a breeze. (That's what I'm telling myself as a mini mantra when things are a bit tough at home). I hope you manage to get some time out for yourself. Keep posting on here and take good care of yourself. Oh and WELL DONE for getting this far.

    kath xx- I found your comments really interesting. I too have toughened up to some old friends who really needed reigning in years ago... not just because I've been a bit angsty but because now is a time to put myself first. It's nothing drastic but I too am letting people know who have taken advantage in the past, that I don't have time for their cr*p at the mo, because I am really concentrating on making myself a better, healthier person. They have responded really well to it too.

    Clo XXX

  • HI Becky, you are going through it and I am truly sorry for you. There is a whole world of hurt going on and you have a right to feel sorry for yourself. Smoking wont make the hormones or the always right mother or your aunties death any better though. I agree that some 'me' time looks like its needed. Is there not any way you find someone to care for your mother for a few hours to give you a break? Please take heart that you will come through it, and coming through it whilst not smoking will make you a very special person indeed x

  • Hi Becky,

    You are doing amazingly :eek:

    If you can weather this storm (or should that be storms) smoke free then you are home and dry. Nothing can ever stand in your way again! :D

    Give yourself a massive pat on the back, treat yourself to something nice and stay strong.

    Jen x

  • hey!

    im around the same day as you, its been 51 days for me today! dont give in with the cigs cuz that wont help you in the long run.

    are you exercising and drinking enough water a day? they say u should exercise at least 3 times a week be it walking or running or swimming etc! and drink at least 2 litre of water a day. 2.5 is classed as the correct amount but u can work your way up! that will make your complexion a HELL of alot better :) i promise.

    does your kid smoke? if so ask for a break from your teenager as they know how bad quitting cigs and people stressing you out can be!

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