Day 24 and struggling

Hi I am having a real battle at the moment I am so miserable not smoking, its like a total personality change for me and feel really strange and dont like it much. I had a fairly easy week last week but since Day 21 its been really hard, the days seem so long and I constantly think about it. I really want to do this especially having got this far but some words of advice or any help would be very much appreciated at the moment.

Sorry to go on.

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  • Dear Dear Dee,

    Firstly, don't apologise for feeling your going through the wringer. But hey, you will come out the other end.

    Whilst I'm experiencing less peaks and troughs now, when they do hit they hit harder which can be quite emotionally exhausting.

    Hopefully this is what your experiencing on some level and nothing more. I don't mean to play down what your feeling, but rather highlight that it's transient. It's real but it's passing.

    Your keeping busy which is great and the things your busy with are all positive which is greater still. This adjustment mentally does take a while but your on the right track Dee......... stick with what your doing, rant and as you put it "go on" all you need. Better here than at your lovely OH at home :)

    Keep going, step by step....... we're all in this together.......... and here for you when you need us... OK?

    Pol xx

  • Hey I am sorry you are having a rough time of it. It sounds to me like you are having a classic "three" struggle. We have all been hit with this one and the three week struggle has caused more than one person to lapse. Please stay the course and find the strength that I know you have (you have made it this far after all) to see this one through.

    For a incentive I can offer you this. After this attack of the nicotine demon life should get much smoother. How is that?

    I would like you to notice your own signature. Never doubt your decision.

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    hey dee

    its hard i know been there 3 times before... i am so dreading it as the weeks go on, but i have to do it this time

    just keep strong hugs sue

  • Can't offer any advice Dee, just hang in there. I've had a 'less than good' afternoon and evening, but I keep telling myself it'll pass and I can't let all this effort not mean anything. I've been on and off this site all day - it does help. So, I know what you're going through and I'm trusting those further along who tell me it'll get easier.

    Off to Poland tomorrow and I've told the people I'm meeting there that I've quit so I can't turn up now with a fag hanging out of my mouth.:o

  • Oh Dee so sorry to hear that you are struggling, your posts really helped when I was doubting it all. it does seem to get harder after the initial couple of weeks and I often find myself saying " grind it out ,just pass the time just dont smoke ! " I hope youre like me and altho youre having a tough time at the mo there are hours when I dont think about it hang on to those

    xx louise

  • Awww Dee, sorry you have had such a bad few days. I hope today is better for you xxx

    ps. if you had you last ciggy on the 29th Oct it would be in your 25th day yesterday??

  • Hi I am having a real battle at the moment I am so miserable not smoking, its like a total personality change for me and feel really strange and dont like it much. I had a fairly easy week last week but since Day 21 its been really hard, the days seem so long and I constantly think about it. I really want to do this especially having got this far but some words of advice or any help would be very much appreciated at the moment.

    Sorry to go on.

    Hi Dee :D

    First please don't apologise you have nothing to be sorry about OK

    Sorry you're struggling just now but it happens at times as you know the way you feel right now is normal for most of us at some point early in a quit but it will pass Promise

    It's those sneaky b..........d Nico :eek: Demons playing mind games with you trying to lure you back again just one of their tricks because you've shut off the supply and they don't like it one little bit continue to defy them and I promise it will get better for you soon

    Click the bottom link in my signature scroll well down and there's a bit there about the psychological part of quitting that helped me a lot at this stage of quitting

    Love

    Marg xx

  • Hi Dee

    Hope you're feeling better today. You know that it's going to be a roller coaster, so just hang on it there.

    Remember how good you felt when you were able to tell your consultant you didn't smoke. Remember how good it felt at the family wedding. Remember how proud your OH is of you.

    Just think what you've gone through to get to this stage. You need never do that again.

    Stay strong, stay positive, post here, moan here and rant here all you want. Smoking isn't part of your personality. It's an addiction which will cost you significantly in terms of your health and finance. You are a strong women with a fun personality *without* cigarettes.

    We're all in this with you. You are part of our team and you're not going to fail now.

    Sue

  • Dee

    Hello there - like the others I am sorry you're feeling a bit rough at the moment - and hope it passes soon.

    We've all gone through this - I certainly have - and I had a right old moan on here - so there's no need to apologise.

    The only thing I can say is that it REALLY does get better. I'm now at 12 weeks - and while not 100% - I feel I'm nearly there. This is probably the hardest thing a lot of us will do - and we all need to stay strong. You can do this.

    Also please read Margaret's suggestion - this was one of the best things I read during my quit and it really helped me.

  • Hi Dee

    This is just a rollercoaster ride and frankly there are times I want to get off!! However we knew this would not be easy, but we have no choice. Deep breaths my love, we are with you.

  • Thank you all so much for great replies, very sound advice and more reading to do. I really cannot give in now as everyone keeps telling me it will get better and having done 25 days I couldny bear to go through all that again.

    You all keep me going as well as myself of course, but the support is gratefully received, THANK YOU ALL.

    Dee xx

  • Hi Dee - I'm so glad you are still with us. I know exactly how you feel - it is really really hard but we will beat this thing. I know you won't want it but I'm sending you my special Lemon Drizzle cake through right now!

    Hugs

    Soosyxx

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