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Day Four - Struggling

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Hey Everyone,

I have decided to quit CT but am having a terrible time today. Actually yesterday as well. I keep thinking that I want to have one more....and that thought keeps ringing through my head and its really making it hard to not go to the store. I am a stay at home mom and if I could just stay in my house I would be fine...but when I do have to leave I am having a hard time staying away from the store. I am on day 4 now and really don't want to fail, I though this would get easier with each day that past and it isn't. I am so tired of fighting that I just feel like giving in....any tips on how to get past this?

Thanks for you help.

Shiann

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Hi Shiann :D

Welcome to the forum you have come to the right place you will get loads of help and support on here we all help each other I know I would not have made it without this place having tried many times before

The guys are right it really will start to get easier now you are over half way through the forst week and the more you read the easier it will get Just hang in there

Margaret

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Well I have to be honest, I caved. I just couldn't take it anymore and I ended up having one.

It's hard because I feel like its my only 'escape' from the kids...I have a 4 and 2 year old and I feel like when I can get outside and have a smoke it's my time to relax. I really don't want to smoke anymore for the obvious reasons I guess it's just getting over the mental part. I don't feel the cravings so much but the thought of 'just one more' seemed to get me for the last couple days and I just couldn't take it anymore. No need to beat myself up about it, I went 3.5 days without one so I just have to get back up , dust myself off and go again. I realize now that I am not missing anything by smoking and I look forward to being smoke free from now on.

Thanks again.

Shiann

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Hi Shiann,

Sorry to here about you caving. But, TBH it seems that it's shown you a valuable lesson when you state that you realised that you aren't missing anything by smoking.

That statement sounds so familiar and I wondered if you had read any of Allen Carr's books. Whilst not being the wonder solution it has helped quitters through at least the first few months until they got back on to their legs, so to speak. You can even download his book Scandal here and read at your leisure.

Great stuff that you are so quickly picking up the reins again.

Cav

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Hi Shiann,

Where did you get the cigarette from? Make sure that if you have a packet in the house that you run them all under water so you don't get tempted again. Please, stay strong ........ you have 2 beautiful children who 1. want to grow up with a mum ; 2. are learning about smoking daily from watching you (they might have even tried to copy you with cigarettes they found in your bag) - I saw a similar story on the news last week.

You ARE going to do it - you sound so positive. It is hard, no doubt, but it gets so much better as time goes on.

DM xx

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I know I can do it, if for nothing else for my kids....What I am finding though is the mental part is SO much harder then I ever expected it to be. I have actually learnt alot today from caving but most important I now feel even more confident in my ability to quit and quit for good.

I know its going to be tough, I am starting over at day 1 basically, but I know what to expect and am 100% prepared.

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Hi, Shiann and welcome to the forum. Sorry to hear about your blip, but you definitely have the right attitude! Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start again. It's well worth it! Read everything you can and read others on this forum. You'll do fine.

Quit: Jan 18, 2009

Method: CT

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Hello Shiann - you are soooo right. The mental bit is by far the hardest. It goes on for longer, and affects you more than you ever think.

Hang on a mo..... let me see if I can dig out a post I did about it.....

DM xx

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Found it -------

nosmokingday.org.uk/forum/s...

Hope it helps, and stay strong ---- have you thrown away the rest of those fags now?

DM xx

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Oh yes, all are gone now.

Thanks for the info.

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Hi Shiann

Good so glad you threw them away asprobably to much of a temptation I know they would have been for me

I would advice you to read anything you can find the sites under BB reply are all good I have read them all]

Good Luck :D

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Hi,

I know exactly where you are coming from. My downfalls were not social or drinking, but when I was on my own or just with the children and no husband. I have three children and I know how much of a nightmare that can be. I would go out to the shops to buy 'stuff' and add in a packet of smokes. Then, i would use the excuse of a smoke to get 5 mins peace from my children. This time I have decided it won't make anything better. The 5 mins peace can be obtained from locking myself in the toilet! The smoking does not make it better, the stress is still there at the end of the smoke! Today is my big tester. I am on day 5 and I have an afternoon at home on my own. No kids. No husband. I am determined not to buy and smoke but I am a bit nervous too!

Keep going. Read lots. You can do it if you are mentally there!

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Hi,

I know exactly where you are coming from. My downfalls were not social or drinking, but when I was on my own or just with the children and no husband. I have three children and I know how much of a nightmare that can be. I would go out to the shops to buy 'stuff' and add in a packet of smokes. Then, i would use the excuse of a smoke to get 5 mins peace from my children. This time I have decided it won't make anything better. The 5 mins peace can be obtained from locking myself in the toilet! The smoking does not make it better, the stress is still there at the end of the smoke! Today is my big tester. I am on day 5 and I have an afternoon at home on my own. No kids. No husband. I am determined not to buy and smoke but I am a bit nervous too!

Keep going. Read lots. You can do it if you are mentally there!

You'll be fine! Just remember all the nicotine has left your body now, you are nicotine free and you don't want to go through those nasty withdrawl symptoms again, when you get through this afternoon you will be so proud of yourself tonight, and everyone on this forum will be proud of you to! Just imagine how good you'll feel, hold onto that thought. Stay strong :)

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Busy, busy!!

Hi,

I am only on day five, so not much advice, but I know exactly what you mean, getting away from the kids and going outside is the best part! My son has been ill the last two days and I was on my own with him and when he fell sleep it was the time when I usually would have gone for a cigarette, I kept thinking about it but instead started cleaning, tyding, washing, amazing never done that before. So for my little experience, just keep busy.

Saying that, I am on my own in the office today and keep on thinking about going for a cigarette :)

Good luck!

Marta

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HI Shiann,

I found it hard to give up the cig to which you escaped the kids...... as someone said on here.................. you can still stand outside in peace with no cig.

wishing you all the best

Jan

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Thanks for the encouragement! Am over the moon as I just passed the 'test' with flying colours!

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