What a shame!!!

I was just thinking about my quit, and I am totally sure this time that I can and will remain a non smoker! Not only that I am happy that I need never smoke again!

The reason being that I no longer feel that by quitting I am depriving myself of one of life's greatest pleasure, previously I have quit sometimes for months but have always felt quitting was some masochistic situation that although I was proud of what I had achieved, I was suffering at the same time!

This time I have read, re-read, digested, worked on my way of thinking and it has clicked. A realisation that I smoked because I am a nicotine addict and that cigarettes are a superior delivery method for nicotine! That is it pure and simple, smoking doesn't do anything for me, other than keep me hooked!

In the last five and a half months I have taken back control, I need no longer worry about whether I have enough cigarettes to last me through, I don't need to plan way to get the opportunity to smoke and I feel much healthier.

But what a shame that I went through half of my life like that, and what a shame that the most effective method I have found to quit is ignored by the medical profession.

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  • I feel exactly the same way Nic,but we finally did it.......:eek:

    After 416,000 smokes I saw the light.....

  • After 416,000 smokes I saw the light.....

    Seems strange considering the light was usually only 4" away from the end of our noses!!

    :D:D

  • I was wondering what that glow was....:D

  • Hi Jim

    i stopped on the 12 september and feel the same as you! as you know from previous threads-but just remind yourself that its pschological-dont let old smelly nicotine beat you xxxxxx

    Nic well done-you are so positive-i will be like you soon!!!!! getting stronger every day xx

  • Dont worry guys i also feel the same try to tell myself every day that is only in my head. one day we will see the light also HEHE. Yes well done Nic your a star mate. xxxx

  • Must say I still feel I'm depriving myself.

    Reason why I come back on here almost daily.

    Sure, I'm pleased with myself, wish I'd done it years ago, am starting to feel health benefits and so on, but I DO still feel I'm missing something I used to enjoy. Maybe it's because it's my first quit. Maybe this feeling is why so many people fail first time around, or think they can get away with 'just one'.

    Sorry .. just being honest. I could kill for one right now ...

    Don't be sorry!

    That is the reason I started the thread, I know where you are coming from!

    BUT you can get the head right and its is so totally rewarding when it starts to fall into place. I've got it sorted (I think) so has Stuart and many others the quit goes through many phases until it just kind of settles down (around the 110 day mark for me) and you just become used to being a non smoker!

    That said I could easily light up from time to time, but I know I don't really want one, it wont do anything for me and it would undo all the work I have put in over the past months. Its my choice but its a no brainer really!

    Positive reinforcement!

  • I understand but a lot of people seem to expect that they will stop thinking about smoking after 2,3,4 months when they smoked for decades.

    Its much better that people understand that it takes time! For (almost) all of us to erase the learned behaviour of the past is a long journey!

    Good luck with it

    Nic

  • I dont understand why it took me to almost 10 months to really think I was going to do it,and then the 13 month was a bummer month like month 1 all over again.now I feel very good and know I will continue not to smoke.I

    really like this place to be honest.:D

  • i am 7 weeks and just 4 days,,and i sometimes would love a fag, but its not as bad as when i first gave up,the crave just come and go and i can live with that,,.i have no intention of smoking ever again..i have come this far ,and would not like to start all over again..O the pain,, the craveing,,etc etc..giving up smoking effects people in diferent ways,,whats good for you might not be good for some one else,,but we all reach the same goal.. sorry i went on again,,just keep the faith tony,,went off the thread a little.o

  • Must say I still feel I'm depriving myself.

    Reason why I come back on here almost daily.

    Sure, I'm pleased with myself, wish I'd done it years ago, am starting to feel health benefits and so on, but I DO still feel I'm missing something I used to enjoy. Maybe it's because it's my first quit. Maybe this feeling is why so many people fail first time around, or think they can get away with 'just one'.

    Sorry .. just being honest. I could kill for one right now ...

    I know exactly what you mean. I have to say I feel exactly as described above : no real cravings, I am not giving anything up except certain misery, I am feeling free. However, on my first quit or two, I was obsessed with fags. I had this intrinsic idea that I was hopelessly addicted and that it was my best friend. My sense of myself as a smoker seemed ineradicable and I couldn't imagine not being one. I just don't have that anymore and i really feel that has contributed massively to how easy this current quit is (3 months on Tuesday!).

    Have you tried going hell-for-leather on the positive reinforcement stuff? I.e. reading Allen Carr, strengthening your sense that you are not actually giving anything up but gaining a whole new set of brilliant things instead?

    Well done for going so long without one anyway!

  • I too feel deprived :eek:

    I deprived my body of oxygen and poisoned it by smoking for 24 years!

    I knew very early in my quit that I would never smoke again.

    I also educated myself. Once you discover the real reasons you smoke it becomes so much easier to stop.

    Over 1 year in and my words of encouragement for all new quiters are as follows.

    I cannot help you with my experiences of the early days of quitting because I have forgotten what it was like.

    Yes I cannot really remember and nowadays smoking is just something I used to do and something I will never do again.

    1 year may seem like a long time, but to me now, it has flown by.

    Stick with your wise decision to stop, EDUCATE yourself and this can become your reality also.;):D

  • your right,Nick!! I think the educating part of giving up smoking is the most Important part,and it works!

    I still think about Cigarettes and Im sure I will for a while yet,but its just that a thought/memory of a past life, I know that eventually it will lessen;)

  • I honestly do understand the feeling of depriving yourself by "giving up" smoking, you spend so many years "enjoying" smoking that you must be robbing yourself of something precious by stopping. I know thats not the way you consciously think of it... but thats the thought process.

    I've been there too, too many times to count. This quit is different. I started off by "giving up", but now I am "quitting".

    I was doing really well on Champix when I first joined this site - but I was very quickly converted to the "knowledge" method. It was thanks to this site and that method that I am in the position I am in now.

    I don't know if I would still be quit without it. Maybe, maybe not.

    I am pretty certain that I would not be at the point where I know I will never smoke again. The point where I am happy that, although I still think of cigarettes now and again, it is easy to say no. The point where I simply accept that although I used to smoke, and that I am a nicotine addict... I do not need to smoke. There is no compulsion. I have the choice.

    I never understood this choice before, thinking about it was the same as craving and craving meant I had to smoke. WRONG!

    This is not what you are told by the NHS and the other people you come into contact with. The information given is simply that you have to wean yourself off nicotine and that's it. They don't tell you anything else and so, quite understandably, everyone thinks thats all there is to it... Nothing could be further from the truth.

    The key to quitting is understanding.

    If you can beleive that and trust all of us who have used it, then you have found the right website to use as a base for learning.

    If you don't beleive that, then I wish you luck. You will need it.

  • I knew very early in my quit that I would never smoke again.I also educated myself. Once you discover the real reasons you smoke it becomes so much easier to stop.

    I cannot help you with my experiences of the early days of quitting because I have forgotten what it was like.

    Yes I cannot really remember and nowadays smoking is just something I used to do and something I will never do again.

    1 year may seem like a long time, but to me now, it has flown by.

    Stick with your wise decision to stop, EDUCATE yourself and this can become your reality also.;):D

    Amen, bro. Agree with these bits completely.

    Nic, Stu, glad you boys are doing so well. Its awesome how many "education" quitters are doing so well. If we could define and measure the method properly, I believe the success rate, whether at four weeks or 3 months or even longer would be phenomenal, especially compared to other methods. Taking into account the quitters on here at any rate, it has to be 100% lol.

    Stay quit everyone.

    All the best.

  • supervillain.. you have said what i have been saying since i found this fourm..on the 12 of nov..it has helped so meny people down throught the years..most of all me..lets give a great big smileto the fourm:D:D:D:D..and we will all keep the faith tony

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