Here we are doing something for most of us that's the hardest thing we have had to do in our life or to us it seems to be the case.When we tell one of our non smoking friends or a friend that has quit for a while that we have stopped smoking their reply does not seem to be enough,we want more than just well done. You sit there thinking to yourself does he/she have any idea what I'm going through now? Do they have any clue how proud of myself I am by getting this far? Of course they don't understand because a quit is a personal thing and the aches and pains we feel in losing something thats been our comfort for many years is again our own personal grief. We have lost a loved one,try telling that to a non smoker and they would think we were nuts but by being in a forum like this we are among friends who understand what we are going through.