Why i am i finding this so hard?

Im having a really bad day again today. I was out taking the youngest to nursery a little while ago and just turned my car round to get some fags, by the time i got to the shop i changed my mind but this is what happened last time i cracked. I did the same thing a couple of times then i did actually have a fag.

Im on day 8 and i found yesterday the same :mad::(

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  • Because it IS hard! There's no quick way through it. All the treatments and methods that are available can help but in the end it comes down to gritting your teeth and sheer determination. But the good news is that it does get easier, and if you can just hold on a bit longer you should really start to see a difference soon.

    If you start again you know you won't be happy, and then you'll have to go through days 1-8 again. If you can just hang on for a bit longer you'll turn a corner soon. Read some posts from the week 2 and see what people have to say - that it's still hard but that something is starting to click into place and it's getting easier.

    This craving will pass, they all do. Make sure you look after yourself - can you plan a treat for this evening to reward yourself for all your hard work?

  • Sara - just one bit of good news for you - If you quit on 21st then you are on day 9 not day 8!!!!

    Which means tomorrow we're in double figures!!!

    Well done;)

  • Hi sara

    I am on my 8th day - can hardly believe I am there!

    I also have difficult times - especially when I am in a stress or emotional situation and no longer have a cigarette available as a prop to deal with them.

    I have the voices/thoughts:

    "it was the wrong time to quit, go on have one and you can quit later"

    "just one puff to see what it is like and see if Champix really put you off them"

    etc etc...

    These are the voices that got me back to that one puff, then one cigarette and back to a pack a day in all my previous quit attempts.

    I keep telling myself to hgive it another 30 minutes, then one hour and so on and then I forget about it until next time. It is getting easier - I am sure it will be the same for you too.

    x

  • H is right,

    You need to just push past that barrier,

    It get's easier !!

    try and get through this loop and break out of it.

    Drive a different way and go for a coffee instead?

    Introducing something new may help break it.

    Stay strong Sara x x

  • I did that first week/2 weeks so many times last year and I cannot tell you how good it is to be past that. I'm not for a second saying that in to gloat (always worried about how things come across on here!) but because I really, really want you to beat this. And you're so close, 9 days already - please don't end up having to do all that again.

    It may be another sign that I need to get out more but hey, if some stranger on the internet cares about you stopping this much then surely it's worth hanging in there for another hour or so?! :)

  • Ill be dead honest. Ive read posts on here where people still struggle months later. I dont think im strong enough to fight this for months. I havent had a fag yet but im still thinking about it and i keep telling myself "you`ll have a fag and then feel twice as bad" and i know i will but its just not going away.

    I can handle the cravings that come for a few minutes and then disappear but its day like this i cant hack. One day leads to another. I enjoy being a non smoker i really do but its so bloody hard getting past it

  • But it won't be for months Sara x x x x

    Thats what we mean :o if you can get through the first 2~3 weeks you will find it soooo much easier! don't look at it as a long term struggle because it isn't x x x x x Just got to get the ball rolling.

    *big hugs* Sara x x x x x x

    Please don't throw away your hard work, stop going to the start line and you'll reach the finishing line x x x x x

    Hang on tight Sara, remember all the reasons you quit for and don't let them go x x x x

  • There are moments, months later, where some people get a craving out of nowhere. No one's denying that. But is is nothing at all like the feelings of the first week or so. If it was really that hard for all that time do you think there would be anyone in the penthouse hun?

  • Ill be dead honest. Ive read posts on here where people still struggle months later. I dont think im strong enough to fight this for months. I havent had a fag yet but im still thinking about it and i keep telling myself "you`ll have a fag and then feel twice as bad" and i know i will but its just not going away.

    I can handle the cravings that come for a few minutes and then disappear but its day like this i cant hack. One day leads to another. I enjoy being a non smoker i really do but its so bloody hard getting past it

    Hey Sara - remember this....?

    Come on ****** i have faith in you :) your doing brilliant and i can promise you if you have a fag you will regret it, let my stupidism show you, im back to square one and you really dont want to be back here with me, its ever so lonely haha :D

    Take your own advice and be strong - you know you don't want to go back to that lonely square one!. Come and have a rant at us if it helps - if it's cleaning that gets you through your cravings - pop round to mine will you?;)

    Big hug to you

    (It will pass)

  • Thanks cword, that made me smile :)

    Edited to add i did quit on the 21st as i had my last fag on the 20th before bed so i am further than i thought, see its made me go senile as well

  • We want to see you get through really x x x x

    That dream this morning, let it go. If you get through today, next time you'll know you can do it (if it's ever this bad again ;) )

  • Sara

    It is hard - I know - and makes you realise how we were all junkies and not that different from any other addicts. We don't need the cigarettes - try to remember your first ever cigarette and how it tasted/felt? The addiction is the thing that makes us crave or think we need a cigarette. Even if the feeling and thoughts are there and are very difficult to overcome, you should stick at it. Tell yourself that you can become a non-smoker just as you became one. Don't be spooked by the fact that some may feel like a cigarett e much further than the line - I am sure their craves feel much different than ours at this time.

    I tell myself the same thing like a mantra when I get the itch - easier said than done. I know but don;t give up.

    x

  • Phil i thought you had mis spelt sex then and that did make me chuckle.

    I am feeling a little better about all this now, but i also txt OH about an hour ago telling him he was thoughtless, unsupporting and grumpy and i wanted him out my life :eek: I dont even know why i said it :confused:

  • Oh Sara Thats what I did at week end seems this forum is going to pot with all the ladies hitting the same emotional wall at the same time :o

    It's like when women living together synchronise periods :D

  • Phil i thought you had mis spelt sex then and that did make me chuckle.

    I saw it as sex too! :eek::D

    If you didn't mean what you said you could text him back saying you're sorry, you're having a sh*tty day and you'll talk to him later.

    Just think how much nicer it will be to pick your daughter up from nursery still smelling good, I'm sure she'll appreciate it.

  • I will send you application form to join my commune ;)

    If we all took you up, you'd be worn through to the bone in a week!

  • I went out with the smokers today for a break, like i always do.. and i said "F it, give me a cigerette"

    they said "why you're doing so good?"

    and i said "i'm going on vacation in 3 months, i'll smoke then.. might as well start now"

    then i stopped myself and said "NO.. you dont want one.. you dont have to smoke on vacation.. and even if you do cheat on vacation, that's not an excuse to give up"

    so i didn't smoke

  • Oh Kris!!

    So close! big up you!! well bloody done!!

    What a star you are x x x x x

  • What a nice way to go anyway i could invest in some jump leads

    :D funny, best get into training now before we all decend upon you :D

  • I cant txt him back now because he didnt ring me up having a go or asking what was wrong it made me angry so i rung him and told to not bother coming home.

    Im a sucker for saying sorry, i absolutely despise being in the wrong ;)

    Joking aside i think we may be about to split up. But i havent had a fag

  • Joking aside i think we may be about to split up. But i havent had a fag

    Oh hun, I really can sympathise with that one. I hope you get things sorted. Congrats on staying strong with your quit :)

  • OH leaves work at 4.30 and im supposed to pick him up, i havent gone, i cooked the kids tea and sorted the washing looked at the time and realised it was nearly half 4 then i remembered the row and thought b*****ks, its only a mile or 2 up the road. If he loves me as much as he says he`ll walk home, tell me he understands and we`ll be fine. But because hes a male that wont happen.

    Im sat here not knowing if hes even coming home, ive had no phone call or nothing, i reckon hes gone.

    I know i was harsh taking it out on him, but what i said is bloody true, He is unsupporting. I take him to and from work everyday and literally before he comes out to the car he will have just finished a fag and cause he cant smell it i swear he thinks i make it up when i tell him he stinks!

  • I am just so impressed with Kris and Sara - resisting even through the difficult times.. Inspiring is what it is. That's it. That's all I wanted to say.:)

  • Go Kris & Sara. Your doing so well & I know I'm just another onew but honetly it does get better. i thought i'd never do it but 11 days later & i'm still here boring everyone.

  • (and mis-spelling everything!!!!

  • OH leaves work at 4.30 and im supposed to pick him up, i havent gone, i cooked the kids tea and sorted the washing looked at the time and realised it was nearly half 4 then i remembered the row and thought b*****ks, its only a mile or 2 up the road. If he loves me as much as he says he`ll walk home, tell me he understands and we`ll be fine. But because hes a male that wont happen.

    Im sat here not knowing if hes even coming home, ive had no phone call or nothing, i reckon hes gone.

    I know i was harsh taking it out on him, but what i said is bloody true, He is unsupporting. I take him to and from work everyday and literally before he comes out to the car he will have just finished a fag and cause he cant smell it i swear he thinks i make it up when i tell him he stinks!

    Oh bloody hell Sara :o

    Thought you'd sorted it! sorry x x x

    It's like we wake up from the entire routine, because we have changed ours.

    And then we can smell the coffee!! rituals turn into, being taken for granted!!

    seems we girls are suffering with this, I don't know the answers but I am in Empathy :o

    Men are from Mars!

    I hope you do sort it x x even better, prolly unreal though, hope he says sorry and puts an arm round you and tells you how fantastic you are! :rolleyes:

    If he does that, I will drop mine for yours in a second! :p

    *hugs* Sara x x

    ~Buffy x x

  • He didnt say sorry, but he did give me a hug so i suppose i still won PMSL

    He was very cold when he got in, and i know i should of felt bad but did i heck, i found it quite amusing :D

    And thanks to you guys im still smoke free and feel mush better about today but its still quite early on, so wish me luck haha

  • Sara,

    that's fantastic that you stayed strong - I bet you're feeling much better for it this morning.

    Good news on getting a hug as well - better than nothing I suppose!

    Hope today's much better for you x

  • Brilliant news Sara - so pleased we didn't lose you

    xx:o

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