Tired and Frustrated

[strawberryoni]

So my partner and I have been trying to move on day by day after this big fight we had and almost split up. I’ve been making a lot of sudden changes in my life to better myself but at the same time I keep dissociating and depersonalizing and then when I do sleep I’m having nightmares about the fight or the possible outcomes and it’s messing with my head. I’m trying to ignore it or just realize it’s stupid but I feel haunted. Any tips on how to cope?

[On_Or_Off]

IDK what the fight was about, of course, but it sounds like it was traumatic to you. If your trust was broken or vice versa, it's gonna take some time to rebuild it. I don't have much helpful to say other than that I'm going through that now, and so far what has helped me is starting some long-postponed trauma therapy, and my husband being extremely patient with me and allowing however much time I need to feel connected and trusting of him again. It's helped me cope tremendously by not experiencing pressure from him to feel some way I just don't. Also, self-care has helped a lot like walking around in nature and going to yoga classes. Those do wonders to help my anxiety.

But it's not stupid to be fixated on the fight; you just may need to get at what's at the root of your anxieties.

Good luck.