Hi. I'm not really sure if anyone will see this but either way, I feel better getting this all out and not keeping it in.
So, I'm a 16 year old girl (and a lesbian, only relevant to say right now because it's gonna come up later). I've had symptoms of ocd since I was around 10 or so, but I was only diagnosed last November; I was diagnosed with anxiety at 6 so my mom assumed many of my mental health issues were symptoms of anxiety, when in reality I actually have not only anxiety (including social anxiety), but also ocd (of course), depression, adhd, and tourette's syndrome.
My early symptoms starting from when I was 10 weren't that bad: I just had small routines like only stepping on certain parts of the floor, or clicking my tongue on either the left or the right side of my mouth when I passed a car on that side. I never faced too much distress from them either so I didn't worry about it. My ocd got worse when I was in 7th grade, when I suddenly was hit with 2 main fears: that I was going to commit suicide (at this point in time I wasn't depressed and wasn't suicidal at all), and that my mom was secretly planning to kill me. These fears began to consume my life and led to more problems, like my tics from tourette's going from being very infrequent to much more often and noticeable. My parents took me to my younger sister's therapist, but she was really bad at her job and did nothing to help; she often silenced me when I was talking and dismissed what I had to say about MY conditions. Eventually, my problems got manageable again and I felt normal and ocd free, until a year later.
In 8th grade, I had a girlfriend who broke up with me unexpectedly so she could date someone else, and it suddenly triggered my ocd. I developed so many different obsessions and compulsions and even though it wasn't as bad as the year before, it was really difficult. Again, after a few months my symptoms got better and many of my ocd thoughts went away. A few months after my symptoms got better I got diagnosed with all of the things mentioned earlier and switched to a much better therapist.
Now, I'm about to go into 10th grade and my ocd has been going up and down for the past year. I currently deal with stuff such as: being worried I'll go crazy and murder a bunch of people, contamination issues (frequently washing my hands and stuff), fear of expired foods (like constantly checking to make sure my food's expiration date isn't anywhere near, being very cautious while eating anything I didn't check/wash, sometimes refusing to eat from restaurants out of fear they'll serve food that has food poisoning), rearranging things, and being very symmetrical and making sure the left and right side of my body are equal, or else my body feels tingly and I feel sick. But the worst of all has been what I think is pocd.
It started a year ago, when I was looking at baby pictures of my best friend's sister. I suddenly felt a wave of fear and I asked myself "was I just attracted to this baby picture?" After that moment, I've been plagued by the fear that I could be attracted to younger kids. It's by far the most horrible thing I've ever dealt with. For months, I didn't know pocd was a thing, so I kept to myself living in fear that people would find out that I was attracted to kids, even though I knew I really wasn't. I was even scared I was attracted to young boys as well, even though I've known I was a lesbian since I was 11. This, instead of being used as proof that I'm not actually attracted to little kids, just made me question the sexuality that I've been open about for years. One day, I had the realization that maybe I wasn't a pedophile, and that it could be really bad intrusive thoughts. I searched "pedophile intrusive thoughts" and found out about pocd. Instantly, I felt better, and I slowly led myself to recovery by following others' steps (such as being around children to combat the fear, and letting thoughts in to show they have no control). For a while, I had no fear at all of being a pedophile and it all seemed like some weird memory, but maybe half a year ago the fear came back all of a sudden.
I kept telling myself "you know it's pocd" but this time it didn't work. I keep doing exposures like my therapist is telling me to but they don't work: I babysit for my neighbors (there are 5 of them between the ages of 2-7) and feel fine, but afterwards wonder "are you sure you weren't turned on at all?". A month ago I visited my little cousin and he was walking around naked; I wasn't turned on which made my ocd much better, but that night I had a dream that I was aroused by him which sent me into the worst ocd and fear I'd had in months. 2 weeks ago, however, I thought I was finally getting over my pocd - I went to an all girls summer camp for a week and wasn't attracted to the younger girls in swimsuits at all, which was my biggest fear. I also met a girl who I thought was really cute and looks my age or even older. When I found out her real age, 13, I immediately lost any attraction to her, which boosted my feeling that I was overcoming the ocd. Since I got back from camp, I've been feeling good about the pocd, until a couple of days ago.
I have a bigger sex drive than most of the girls I know, and it's been even higher recently. So I've been randomly getting turned on throughout the day, some of those times being when I see a child. It's causing me a lot of distress, even though I know realistically it wasn't the child who got me aroused; after all, this has been happening randomly. But it's still really hard to shake the fear. The issue that prompted me to write all of this in the first place was me getting randomly turned on right before I was thinking to myself "would I really be turned on by a kid? wouldn't I be more aroused by someone my age?" so I took the feeling as my body agreeing that it was turned on by a child.
So that's the end I guess. I just really needed a place to let this out. If you did read the entire thing, thank you, it means a lot.