Advice

[Donndonn1980]

I need yall advice.

Ok I've been with my newest kids mom for 4 yrs or so. In that time she has never completely let me in like I still dont know certain things she like. She keeps her past vague and sometimes her behavior raises red flags. At times I dont even feel safe and lately I have been cautious on what I say to her. I'm only saying this cause all I do is take care of our kids and even fight to make us work. Everything all these women complain about she cant cause I'm here. She has said things no person could tell another that they love like she Hope's I get shot in the head "God forbid " and things even worse. And she constantly says she hates me. I in my old ways woulda left but I feel I'm leaving my kids around dysfunction to fend for THEMSELVES and I lost my apt. Due to a rent increase so I dont have anywhere to just take them to. I'd hate to think she would let anything happen to me but the ppl I'm around aren't the best kind of ppl to be around. Lack of integrity would be an understatement. Even so I treat everyone as I'd like to and do my best not to judge but I do share how I feel at times cause right is right and wrong is wrong. Anyways I dont know what to do. I dont want anything to happen to me and dont wanna be a fool but I also dont want to leave my kids. I'm just a guy that is trying to do right and really put my kids 1st. I'm nowhere near perfect but I dont cheat or do dumb shit. I respect ppl and i just want to love my kids and be loved as well. Thanks for reading and thanks in advance for any words of encouragement!💪🏿💯

[cambridgeborn]

Allowing another person to abuse us or disrespect us is just wrong! Staying with your abusive partner is not healthy for your kids, either. You really need to exit that toxic relationship, and provide a safer environment for those children. It sounds like your self-esteem may be an issue. Could you join a male self-help discussion group? Many communities have support groups for men. Check it out. Good luck. Sheila

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I'm so sorry. This sounds awful. This doesn't sound like a good environment for you or your kids. Sounds like you should talk with a lawyer to sort out your options. Go to the Bar Association if you can't afford a lawyer. They'll consult with you. Your kids need you. Good for you for not skipping out on them! And talk with your doctor about finding a counselor to go to. Best of luck.