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Three years ago I was diagnosed with adenocarcinoma in-situ, I was told at the time to have a hysterectomy which I delayed due to successful treatment and desperately wanting to have a child. My husband and I started trying, three years later we have been unsuccessful and due to him having children we are not eligible for NHS support for IVF and can't afford it. I think I have to face facts that being a mum is not part of the plan for me, it is heartbreaking and I don't think I will ever be able to deal with it. Sorry for the moan.

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This is the place to moan! It is so hard but I have found that some days do get easier. I had some great councilling from the NHS which has helped me to start to come to terms with not having children.

After 8 years of trying it turned out there was a problem with my fallopion tubes. I had them removed and we had two horrible rounds of ivf. The last one resulted in a positive but we miscarried. That was two years ago. We aren't going to go through it again so I am taking all of the positive steps that I can and trying to see this as an opportunity to love the life and family that I have. But believe me, some days are utter s**t.

I hope that in time it gets easier for you too, at least for some of the time. Big hugs x

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