Just wanted to share and see if anyone else has experienced this and any advice on how you dealt with it. So I have just had a full hysterectomy after years of struggling to have a baby with no success. This was my 5th Gyne operation and the end of the road to having a biological child. So saying I was a little emotional was an understatement but I felt once in hospital I was dealing with it better than I expected. So my first night in hospital and there is a cubical opposite me where there are bringing patients in from the early pregnancy unit. So they pull the curtain round but you can hear everything about the pregnancy. I was in pain and had been asking for painkillers for over an hour. I got upset at this point and called a nurse over who said they were on the way. Then I whispered to her, not wanting to make a fuss, knowing they must be short of space but telling her my situation and saying I just wanted my medication so I could put my ear plugs in and go to sleep and not have to listen to it all. She was really kind and did this for me. Then the next day, luckily I was feeling stronger, because they bought in another chair opposite and there were 2 cubicles with the same thing again. So I just sucked it up. I just think maybe knowing my situation they could have moved me or this all could have been going on elsewhere.
As my care was reasonably good, due to the staff being stretched I didn’t feel I wanted to complain at this point.
So 4 and a half weeks on and I have an appointment at the hospital for physio. I was a little anxious but went along. They take us into a room and it’s quite clearly used for antenatal classes. There were pictures of birth all over the walls and affirmations on the flip chart. So then I lost my temper, which is quite mild compared to most people. It was a group session so I’m front of everybody I said to the physio why do they keep doing this. It’s hard enough having a hysterectomy when you can’t have children and then you have to put up with all this. Then went on to say about my experience on the ward. I told her I wasn’ t having a go at her but it’s just so insensitive. I then proceeded to burst into tears and left the room. Once in the toilet I tried to pull myself together. I then went back to the class and none of this was mentioned again.
Sorry for the long rant but basically I am now wondering if I should put in a formal complaint??
I just don’t want anyone else to have to go through this, as I find most people going through infertility tend to keep things quiet. Would like to know your thoughts. TIA xxx