Angry!

[chatnoirmd]

Hi there! I’m writing for support because I’m angry. I fell down the steps and broke my foot in December. I needed immediate surgery and have been recovering slowly, but surely. My sister called me to pick a fight and ended up telling me to go fall down stairs again and to break my other foot. She said this three times, then denied saying it at all, then confessed to saying it to me the next day. We have not spoken since, which I’m ok with.

I’ve been careful navigating the stairs and trying to overcome my anxiety. Yesterday I ended up falling off the last step and face planted. So one foot is in a walking boot, and the other severely sprained to the point that I can barely walk on it.

I keep remembering my sisters words and can’t help but think of what she said. I can usually tune her out, but she got into my head. I’m finding it hard to let go. I’m fighting the urge to call her to tell her she got what she wanted. I’m sad that she could wish that kind of harm on another person, and especially her own sister.

I can’t help but feel like I somehow deserved to fall down the stairs. I’ve been so positive throughout my rehabilitation but now the tides have changed. I don’t know what my question is exactly but I’d love to know if anyone here has trouble with their family or can relate somehow.

Thanks!

[blackcat64013]

Hi,I am sorry to hear about your falls and the anger with your sister.

I have lived experience with my difficult sister.

Families are portrayed as perfect groups of individuals connected at birth. In reality, this isn't often the case. Loose lips sink the family ship.

You really have 2 options from my experience:

1. Call 📞 your sister and make a statement beginning with "I feel x when you do y. At the moment after the event..... I feel xx. What I need or would like you to do is ....."

2. Do nothing. This means nothing changes and you keep on having those x@#! feelings continuously.

Overcoming the uncomfortable feelings takes some courage. Think of the potential benefits or positives rather than not speaking up 🤔

All the best

[chatnoirmd in reply to blackcat64013]

Thank you for your thoughtful response. It gives me something to think about. I appreciate the share. 😊

[Vonus5591]

Why? Narcissistic personality? You stay with God in your heart and he will look after you - million times over xx