Family Drama...

[SurvivingEveryday]

I have three adult siblings who are nothing but literal drama. They quarrel, fight, and are just not decent people. Our elderly parents live with me and my spouse (a fact in itself that has caused drama within the sibling group).

They seem to always attack me for silly things that they perceive I do. Like, my sister thinks my spouse and I are on the verge of bankruptcy and tells my parents, who then worry. My two brothers accuse me of things that I do not do, and also tell my parents.

The reason they live with me is because everyone else lives out of state. I don't want a relationship with my siblings and have told both them and my parents. My parents being here is so difficult because they bring my siblings up and talk about them a lot. Plus, they have a right to love their children. I do not hinder, nor ban, them from having a relationship. I encourage it. But it is becoming more and more difficult and I'm not sure what to do.

This situation sucks, and I'm constantly retraumatized and triggered.

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Sorry I have similar problems with my two Sisters, I walked away from my whole remaining family about three or four years ago and it lifted a massive weight of my mind etc

The problems you seem to have is the fact of you life is happily with your aged parents in your new home, This means it will be difficult to move on in your own life because of this. Because your Parents will need to be able to see their parents. If at all possible you need to break ties from your Sisters

Your Husband seem to get either fired up by your family members and can instigate problems between you. You need to take him on and tell him not to speak out of turn, what happens right or wrong need privacy and kept in your four walls and should not be broadcast to all and sundary, maninly your Sisters

Remember We choose our friends not family

BOB

[SurvivingEveryday in reply to Hidden]

Thank you! Your advice helps me so much.