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[kennyk]

I am feeling very lonely all though l stay with my partner I feel she does not understand l feel that l want to put my jacket on and walk forever l am on 30mg matazipine I just would like to have friends and people to talk to

[Hidden]

Hello Kennyk, Welcome,Sometimes partners of family members have problems to relate to mental health concerns , like Anxiety or Depression. I was very similar when I moved to this address from my old home and would go walking over the fields and sit down on the stone circle, no- one kew where I was and I would do that if I thought the CPN was calling at my Wifes request. So you are not alone

How long have you been on this medication, you need at least five weeks to begin to feel a little better.

With your Partner you explain the need to be given understanding, could you explain what is causing your Mental Health concern

BOB

[kennyk in reply to Hidden]

Hullo Bob l have been on my medication for about 1 year l do speak to my partner but l think she feels helpless cause l have given her a hard time l don’t have any friends or family to talk to l have a CPN but l don’t think l need her l hope you can get how l am feeling

[Hidden in reply to kennyk]

We can be insular in our outlook when we are depressed, especially when we have anxiety I know from experience I can sit all night and never say a thing. It really irritates my wife and it can cause disagreements especially when She tries to talk to me and I become very irritated. Sad to say with my disability I am also unable to perform any tasks in the home because of pain.

If you have a CPN and you have problems relating to your Partner, you still need the CPN, part of treatment and medication if the patient has not addressed the problems and are not able to address your concerns you may suffer disagreements. What causes your disagreements.???

Are you happy in this relationship ? Do you need to move on or are you just unable to work out what you really want.

I know in my case I was pushed to make various changes in my life, so resulted in walking away from family, although my Wife and I have been together for forty years. Your Partner needs to be possibly cruel to be kind.

Possibly it may be you need to back of as it may be your problems are messing with the relationship.

BOB

[kennyk in reply to Hidden]

Yes you are right it’s me who is messing the relationship up we have been together for 11years my depression has got worse over the last 3 months yeh l seem to want to destroy everything in my life l think she is frightened to ask me to do anything in the house in case I go off on one The trouble is if l leave this house l haven’t any where to go l do mean it when l say l have not got anyone in my life except my partner lm 66 years old and retired

[Hidden in reply to kennyk]

Kennyk

What you have explained is quite normal, however understand there is no excuse for unreasonable behaviour when we have mental health concerns.

I have just been having a shower and when drying myself, like a lot recently I fell between bath radiator and toilet, my wife was there to help me so it is really counterproductive and unreasonable to become bad tempered or upsetting someone who is there for you and in all intents and purposes looking after you. I do manage to do small jobs and over short periods look after the garden and I and my wife in many ways understands what the situation is especially with my short term memory. It may be she feels no appreciation from you just you been upset and flustrated with your low mood.

I would suggest you talk to your doctor and explain how you feel. You have been together for such a long time you are sixty six years old so there must be a great deal of love between the two of you, you have both a great deal invested in this relationship, in a way your are like me, I am over seventy now and we have been together for forty years.

We have our own bungalow and garden it would be horrible if we would loose either one of us. Yes as we get older we can get a bit ratty, Get some treatment and understand how to keep each other happy and just love each other

BOB

[kennyk in reply to Hidden]

Thank you Bob I will contact my doctor stay safe and once again thank you 👍

[Brielle-White]

hi Kennyk... i am so sorry if you feel lonely, i can understand, we often undergo such situations in this life and it is hard to explain why sometimes nobody help our situation.. but don't worry. Feel free to talk and express all that is inside you.. i am all ears